Attracted to my friend's girl

Hi


Here's the issue I hope you can help me figure something out

This friend from work met this beautiful woman at a party some months ago, they seemed to get along very well that day, you know, talking and dancing together (great dancer by the way) having some drinks and so on, so he asked for her number and she gave it to him, my friend called her some days later and both agreed to go on a date together. (I believe you know the drill). After their going out together, he will not stop talking about her, kept telling everybody at work how beautiful and great she is. Well, the first thing that draws your attention about her is that she’s not American but Latin American, Colombian actually. She moved to the States about 6 months ago due to her studies. Anyway, they’ve been going out together for a month and a half already, but only as friends, he hasn’t made any move yet, even though he claims he likes her a lot.
Over the past days, I realized that I’m beginning to feel attracted to her too, but who wouldn’t? I mean, 5’ 7”, beautiful (dark) skin, awesome body, long black hair, black eyes…stunning, if you’ve seen Colombian women, you will have to agree with me.

During this time, I have had the chance to talk to her, when going out with her friends and ours, and noticed that she really is all of the things my friend says she is… smart, sincere, and fun. That’s why the attraction. So far, I ‘m not a 100 percent sure about the way she feels about him, but I believe that she just sees him only as a friend, I could be wrong though, you never know when it comes to women, but if I’m right this would give me an opportunity, but I know inside that it wouldn’t be fair to do that to him. Besides, I know the guy for 3 years and he’s a really good person, I would hate to be in the position of choosing between his friendship and her…. OK maybe I am overacting a little, there’s the chance the she might not want anything to do with me either, the thing is that I’ve never been in this kind of situation before, that’s why I don’t know how to deal with it.

That said, what do you think I should do? Talk to him about my feelings towards her or wait around and see how things unfold between the two of them, what if things don’t work out, should I start thinking about making a move only then?


Any advice??


Thanks

 

i personally think you should go to your friend before you talk to her. if you really don't know what's going on between them, maybe they actually decided to just be friends, and you just wouldn't know it. so he's been your friend for a while, you should be able to talk to him about it. either he tells you to try things with her, or they're getting emotionally closer. if he tells you to go for it, good luck, and if they're getting closer, i suggest that you stay a safe friendly distance from her. see, you don't want to lose his friendship over her, so be sure to respect his boundaries. just talk to your friend before you go to the girl. she sounds absolutely gorgeous, too.
good luck, peace<3

 

ask your friend what his intentions are with her and if there are no intentions o n a romantic level then go for it.honesty is the best policy

 

Wait around and see how things unfold!!! - that is the best. Do not talk to your friend about your feelings about her because that can complicate matters for both of you.
Keep it to yourself, stay close to both of them and let them sort out what they want.
After that just wait for the opportunity if it comes to that. Maybe she has a friend that is better than her.

 

I'd say wait and see how the relationship goes between your friend and his girl. Afterall friends are more important than any man or woman... If things do start to go bad and they end up not together then after a few days tell your friend the feelings you have towards her. If they do end up staying with each other leave it be.. afterall theres plenty more good fish in the sea..

 

are u the leader of ur click? and girls always want what they cant have like i am not a good friend i slept with most of my friends girls. they like me cause i am a dick and they want someone they can change. i bet ur friend thats dating her is a push over and gets his way alot. girls dont want that. they want a challgen. i can go on and on and one thing i know is women better then they know them selfs. btw i hope u love my spelling

 

Did she move to the States with her family? You know, if things DO end up working out between that friend of yours and her, she could introduce you to a cousin or a sister just as stunning as her. How about that?

 

I really appreciate the support guys, so I've been thinking about it and I guess that the best thing to do is wait and see how things go between the two of them.

I'll fill you in with the details.

Thanks

 

my boyfriends friend said he wished my boyfriend didn't have me cuz I'm perfect. I thought about telling my BF but his friend said it right before stumbling over onto the street behind a cop car. So he was drunk. Don't know if it's right but I kept it quiet. I don't want my bf fighting with an old dear friend for something he said while toasted.
but alas that is a different situation. Both our situations though may cause tensions if revealed....

if he wasn't drunk as shit I would of told my bf though. it just seemed unfair to do so within the circumstances. and we were just visiting anyways.

 

how do u know she even likes u at all?

 

That's the thing, I'm not sure if she has any feelings for me.

 

Don't screw up your friendship over a "maybe."

Maybe she doesn't want to seriously date anyone right now and you and your friend are a refreshing change from men that just want to sleep with her. Trust me, as a woman it does get old. So, enjoy her company but back off any romantic notions for the time being.

 

you shouldn't be tripping too much...anyway if nothing has happened in one month and half...go for it...but if nothing sghould happen with you too...give way....
this is just a feeling of mine, but i think that when you get to know a new one things should start developing quite early....good luck

 

colombian girls are extraordinary...I love south american girls

 

Immigrants from Catholic Countries take thier time with romance. Its not an indication of failure of the relationship.

 

Can’t deny the fact that Colombian women are definitely hot. 'Bout a year ago, I went to Barranquilla on a business trip, and I agree… They are very attractive. Unfortunately, I had no time to meet any women as I would have liked to due to my work.

Anyway, you said you know this guy for 3 years already, if so, you may at least have a clue how he will react when being confronted, if you have the guts to do it of course. You also said you like this girl, but I have to ask… what is it that you really feel about her. Is it just infatuation? Or do you really like her? The same goes to your friend.
Now I’m taking a few days off in a moth or so, and I’m thinking about coming back. I’m curious about this Tour Company, I clicked on the link and found out about it. We’ll see what they can offer.

Good luck pal!

 

First thing that came to my mind whne you mentioned Colombia was Shakira, I mean if women there look like her and move their hips the way she does, I wouldn't mind coming down to Colombia and check for myself what they're all about.

 

Truth to be told, I’ve never been to Colombia and I don’t know any Colombian women either, but I’ve been to Peru, loved the country, the food, and its people, especially I fell in love with this loving and caring girl, we’ve been together for over 2 years and we’re doing great. It’s said that these are common traits in Latin American women. That being said, if you really like this woman, why not risk it all!


Good luck

 

You can always try and forget. They say lots of beer helps.
You should send your story to www.sexat30.com web site. They would get a kick out it. Good luck.

 

"I'm in love with Jessie's girl..."

Nah, this is a question of your moral character. Because if you're friend likes somebody, they are officially off limits until the end of time. Like sisters. Cousins are alright tho.