Okay, I heard somewhere that the reason women grow up to be men-bashers is because they had bad relationships with their fathers, and so far I have seen many examples to uspport this. I was just wondering if the same principle works in reverse. If a girl can have a horrible relationship and end up hating women as an adult. I ask this because of my rocky relationship with my own unreliable mother. I don't want to end up blaming the female gender for her inept parenting skills. But sometimes I notice myself speaking harshly of girls or discriminating against my wn gender. Do you think it's because of that principle, or am I overreacting to a natural gender preference?
I get annoyed when I see women playing into roles that obiously (to me) incriminate themselves into sterotypical roles. I hate seeing women showing off their bodies, without repsect to their minds, only to subdue men to fill their ego's, when some of them seem like they may be actually intelligent. I hate when women pretend to be bi to get rises and attention out of men, when they are not. but I do not hate women, of course not. but I do become annoyed at times when I can't find one to have a decent converstion with. I can't hate them. Society tells them these things are beautuful that they ravish themselves in. I only wish to show them another way. I'm beautiful (luckily physically) but so much on the inside. I feel if my inner light is strong enough it may radiate towards others and show them more than they know. But over the years I have made more friends with men. They have their own problems, but they seem alittle more bareable to me at times. The women half of the race will overcome, and see their own personal power so strongly they never resort to physical and mental manipulation again.
p.s. my realtionship with my mother is strange. as well as my father. I don't know if I answered any questions. this is just what I felt in response.
I've never had a good relationship with my dad but I don't think that made me hate men. I'm a lesbian but I have close male friends and female friends. Sometimes, I tend to get along with men better than women. I think I find things in both sexes that get on my nerves.
Of course, those things definitly affect you. You just have to be strong and see the good in people instead.
Yea, I definitely think that having a bad relationship with your mom (or other adult women) can make you into a woman hater-- even when you're a woman yourself. I grew up without my mom, but there were a lot of women who tried to be my fill-in mom... these weren't very good relationships and ended up being more abusive than anything. I started harbouring a lot of resentment to the rest of my sex-- didn't have any girlfriends, all my friends were guys. When I finally got back with my mom, things didn't go much better with her (my dad sure can pick them...) It's funny though: my dad was physically abusive, and I've been physically abused by men, women just emotionally abused me growing up, but I hold a lot more resentment towards women for some reason... anyway, I'm trying so hard now to get past this and see the good in everyone. I don't like who I am when I'm being so judgemental of other women.
i hated women for years because of the way they as individuals treated me. i have a fantastic relationship with my mother and sisters. but all those other girls hated my guts for some unknowable realy. i'm over it now, obviously. i also had some unresolved sexual attractions and frustrations to deal with. as such, i feel like i identify with the frustrations and angers men feel. i'm more apt to forgive them for getting shitty about women than i am about women being shitty about men. i've seen my brothers' relationships. they were never saints, but they didn't deserve half the shit they got. so idon't think there's any one reason why people can get shitty about theother sex. a lot of it is pure frustration and lacking the patience to understand where they're coming from.
Well I basically have the worst relationship with my mother. Verbal abuse and physical abuse wears down the love you can feel for a person. I haven't seen her for almost 4 years now. But that has not affected the way I view and treat all women. Quite the opposite. My best friends are women. I think it may be because I missed a lot of female love and compassion in my early years. But that is not to say I don't love hangin' with the guys. Take people for who they are, not what gender they happen to be. Perhaps if I had held hate in my heart against my mom I would dislike women. Or take some of that anger out on them. But you have to learn to forgive and realize that it was your mother's issues. Not your own, and most certainly not other women's.
