Hi there, I lived with my wife for 3,5 years. Our sex life was good untill she got pregnant. After she gave a birth to our child everything has changed. She is never ever feels horny anymore. I thought that this was a temporarily problem but now a year and a half has gone and nothing is changed. Sex is getting me bored. It is limited to 3-4 positions. No oral sex at all, I am not even mentioning anal. My wife is not giving me any blowjobs and not allowing me to go down on her either saying that it is became unpleasant. I am confused now.We love each other and everything else apart from sex is good. But I am a bit of a sex maniac and can only be happy in relationship if I get lots of it and always vary and try new things. I dont want to leave my wife and kid , and I dont want to start sleeping around to get what I want. Please help me with an advise. I am desperate to get good sex going again, I want to please my wife and want to be pleased as well.
You could be understanding, she had a kid, and even at a year and an half the kid needs care. You can help her to the best you can with the child and maybe you can have better sex. I can tell that you want sex, but don't let your desire for sex get the best of you. No sex isn't the end of the world, nor does it make a relationship. If you love her as you say, you'll wait until she's ready you please you.
have you asked her about it? is she on any new medications? do you guys ever manage to ge ta sitter so she isnt always worrieda bout the kid? stress can be a HUUUUUUGE libido killer especially for women
The past is history ( just memories now of what was once) What you had,may be lost to you now and in future. Accept life as a process,& accept change,you live only in the present,and have a path,a selection of choices to the future.
Stress is a huge killer of libido. If you can find a sitter, spend a few hours together relaxing i.e. not some big production dinner & movie deal, but time actually communicating. Talk to eachother. Just relax. Most women have better sex when they're comfortable, in my experience. Maybe its an evolutionary thing, to ensure women don't get pregnant when they're in a bad (stressful) situation for a baby. If she's comfortable, and happy, and secure, she can start thinking about sex. Be patient, and work with her.
