will i ever trust him again?

I don't really care what you do. You asked a question and I gave you my opinions. I wish you luck.

Yes, our situations are different. I have no reason to be bitter, I am not married to a cheater. As they say: Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. You accept all your husbands faults all you want and as long as your happy with it then good for you. I don't care. Just don't act like the trust comes back and you don't wonder what your husband is up to when he is not around. You don't have to feel weak now because of your decision and be hateful to those of us who realize cheaters are untrustworthy. Seperate out the feelings of being scared to be alone, being scared of change, being scared of independence and continuing your life. Realize those feelings for what they are. I know those feelings. Just don't tell me that because someone gets caught they now love you so much more then when they cheated the first time. They are scared of change to.

 

Dude, seriously get over yourself.

 

Yeah, you need to get over yourself too. And, as usual, you are not paying good attention, because the person you were refering to in your last post IS my husband, but I guess you were unable to figure that out for yourself.

hate are people who assume and think that what works for them is the right way or only solution...So, I guess you must hate that quality in yourself also, because from what i have read in your posts, it's you to a t....

 

I'm glad that you are able to cut thru all the chaos on this thread and find some useful inforamtion. Feel free to PM me or something if you need to....

 

is that all you can say is"get over yourself?" haha listen tarnished angel were you tarnished because of your loving faithful husband?????mmmmmm i wonder????hopefully you can show him all the love and support he needs or maybe he'll cheat again so that he can love you more.....what a joke.... both of you

 

I just might do that, thank you

 

Oh, I am so sorry to disagree with something you said. Threads would be pretty short without on-going discussion. You wanted to hear one thing and you found someone to tell it to you. Once again, good luck.

Sorry, don't owe you any favors. I am not the one you should be finding your backbone with.

Good one.

 

No i did find someone to tell me what i want to hear, i foud someone that could maybe help me get through this, with some advise.

 

not everyone is the same. thank god for that.

 

you're right thank god i'm not a cheater...

 

i'm sure you are much worse in a some other way.

 

it has been my experience cheaters usually (well my experience is actually always but I'll be open minded) usually cheat again. The sad thing is you may never even find out the second time. Would he ever tell you? I doubt it.

 

I agree that in most cases, once a cheater, always a cheater, but I can say for certain that I genuinely made a horrible mistake. I know that I will never do it again. anyone that questions my current loyalty to my wife now can eat shit and die.

 

i have never hurt someone i loved.

 

we all have

I've been reading this post and see you feuding. I understand what you say. I understand what dark hippy says. but do you understand eachother? doesn't seem like it.

you both have something to contribute to society and humanity. open up and see it

I have had a couple drinks. sorry if I'm steppin in. lol

 

I would like to think, ( if i found out what he did in another county, within 2 weeks of him doing it ) that i would find out if he did it closer to home. Where we are,nothing stays secret for long, seems everybody knows everybodys business. I uderstand what you're saying, that wasn't a dig at you.

I know somone will probably quote me on this, but one time i went home for a week (when we just had the 2 kids) he siad he hated coming home to an empty house. So i would like to think he would't risk coming home to an empty house permanently, by doing it again.

 

i too understand what all parties are saying but it seems when i view my opinion people get defensive and outright rude,like i have been saying i choose not to aloow or accept cheating there are too many other people out there to love and i can also assure you i have never hurt anyone i have claimed to love.you seem very nice and it's ok to respond with a few drinks in you ,,,true feelings come out then...

 

That right there should prove to you that he didn't feel bad enough for what he did. He couldn't even confess? Was he just going to let it go? And is he still communicating with this woman?

I don't know how you forgave him and gave him another chance the first time. I'm so sorry for all you've been goin through.

 

While YOu may not have huert someone you loved by cheating on them, I find it hard to believe that you have NEVER caused someone you loved to hurt...it just seems a bit unrealistic to me. You have never said anything unkind to them, chosen soemthing over them, gone against something they asked you to do or not do.....