Hi there, I just wanted to see if anyone could offer advice on my following problem. Ive done a bit of reading on the problem but I havent come up with any real help. Ive been married to my wife now for 6 years. Before she met me she had never had an orgasm. It took about 2 years before I brought her a vibe and then she started having them all the time by using the vibe on her clit. Ive read a couple of books on the clitoris and Ive tried really hard to use my tongue to get her to cum, but it just wont work. I've tried everything when it comes to penetration but I dont get anywhere. Im aware that alot of women cant orgasm through penetration but it seems strange that the vibe can get her to orgasm but my tongue cant!! She's even tried playing with herself without her vibe but she cant orgasm. So I guess what Im saying is... am I doing anything wrong or should I be trying something else?? Or is it "normal" for a vibe to work and not a tongue? Thanx for any advice.
No, Sweetie, You're Not Doing Anything Wrong. All Women Are Different, And It's Completely Normal For Women To Only Orgasm Using A Vibrator...At The Same Time, Don't Give Up--Try Different Techniques And Positions (Moving Her Legs Into Different Positions) And, You Never Know, One Of These Days She May Just Achieve The End Result You've Been Looking For : ))) Good Luck~
How long do u give it with the stimulation. Maybe she needs more stimulation, pressure on the clit. Have her hold the flesh around her clit as you go down on her to see if that gives her more direct stimulation. Perhaps she could try Kegels.
does she fantasize while she uses the vibe? perhaps she should fantasize while yorue going down on her
Thanx for all the info peoples. I had another go at it last night and I tried a few different leg positions but none of them seemed to make any difference. She still enjoys being licked and she was even using the vibe to get her close then seeing if i could lick her to orgasm. Nothing worked but it was still fun trying. I usually lick her until she asks for me to use my cock.... so it just depends on her as too how long it goes for. I asked her what she was thinking when i was licking her and she said that she was thinking about being with another guy and a girl, so Im pretty sure she was enjoying the whole experiance. Im reading a good book atm called "she comes first" and im getting alot of good info from it... even though I cant lick her to orgasm, I sure am glad than she does get to orgasm at all....
Remember - sex is a psychological journey. You've got to get in to how much you're enjoying it and then the orgasms will come. I've noticed time and time again that if I distract myself, I lose it. If you know what I mean. Geez - all this from a born-again virgin!
One suggestion: Try ice. I know it sounds weird, but try crunching down a piece of ice before eating her out. It makes for an interesting experience.
