Okay, I feel very confused and feel more comfortable talking about it on here more than anywhere else. So I have been going with a cute girl for about 2 months now, I told her I love her and she told me she loved me too. But I feel like I want to take it back because I honestly don't think this will go very far. I am pro drug use to an extent I smoke weed, and have considered doing magic mushrooms once in my life and I smoke with my friends to have a good time. But she gets mad at me if I smoke and I hate to keep secrets from her. And me and my friends would smoke and party all the time before I met her. Now if I smoke she throws a fit, but I am ready to tell her if that makes her mad I don't care I like to do it and she should support whatever I want to do if it makes me happy. And lately i've been spending 99% of the time with her. I feel like I wanna break up with her but it seems like it would be something that I might wanna take back for the rest of my life. She also wants to wait another 4 months to have sex but I feel like I can't wait that long. I guess I feel like if I break up with her and go back to having fun and meeting other girls then I might miss being with her. I think the only way I can still be with her is just to tell her that I am going to smoke and if she gets mad over it that, that is her problem not mine. It's one of those questions to ask myself should I choose friends, drugs, and partying? Or should I choose her? Any opinions or suggestions would be appreciated
Yes, you should be honest, and perhaps, you may choose to be in this relationship at some future time. It would appear the relationship isn't sufficiently important to you at present. If it were me, I would choose her
I see your point, but I see her side as well. She's concerned about you and the drugs. I think you should find a nice balance between friends and your things, and her. Good luck !
Let me tell you a little story. I used to do lots of coke. My girlfriend caught me, and gave me the old ultimatum. I thought about how I was living, and decided losing someone I cared about over something as lame as drugs was a horrible prospect.
I would say that you should not stay with someone who keeps you from your friends. It is a bad sign. I also have to say that weed is not a terrible drug to do. If you use it responsibly, then there is really not a problem. If you are moving on to harder drugs like cocaine, you might need to listen to friends if they raise concerns. However, you have only been dating her for 2 months; you are not that invested.
I agree with the person who posted above me, I've been seeing my bf for about the same amount of time as you, and I've started smoking less, but only because he is teaching me to save my money which is good of him - he too smokes though, so I'm not in the same boat at all I would say that you should leave her because unless you are considering cocaine (and you yourself said that you've only considered doing mushrooms - which are fun, but only once in a while - seriously, they fuck me up some kinda crazy ) or something serious and crazy like that - also expensive lol - then she really shouldn't have anything to worry about. If weed is part of who you are then she should accept it, however really there should be a compromise, like you could only smoke when youre with your friends - allotting that she gives you time to be with your friends, and if she doesn't then you should DEFINITELY leave - and not be high when youre with her... I suppose it all depends on what her stance is with the drug, whether she thinks you are doing physical harm to yourself, or if she thinks it may lead you down the path of hard drugs, or if someone she knows was affected by the use of it... In anycase I think that if you yourself are feeling as though you should be taking back the big L, then maybe the relationship needs some thought. Sometimes quitting weed isn't the answer
The OP doesn't sound as if he really wants to be in a serious relationship right now... Don't waste her, or your time...
1.) dont break up with her beacuse she gets mad at you for smoking pot. one of my GOOD friends WAS dating this girl for atleast 3 years, and he used to smoke weed before they met, and continued throughout their rel. But she also did not approve very much, and they were always together as you were. He was very bright, smart, hard working, but a pot head nontheless. good person...lol. although, The rest of our group missed him, and wanted to party with him and stuff but at the same time i understood that he had a gf and if it was me, i would want to spend a lot of time with my gf as well. But maybe you can tell her if she doesnt approve, then you will find someone who will. That will really scare the shit out of her if you want to make a big deal out of it. Because i dont think smoking plants should be looked down upon, it sounds like your gf needs to loosen up a little. And maybe you need to take a little more incentive to put the foot down. And if she STILL insists on getting upset, and wants to control all your free time and recreational fun time with friends (drug use with friends lol), then id say she is too controlling and you can go ahead and drop her like a bad habit. But i would hate to see that happen, as i do believe ANY relationship can be saved via good communication and working/sacrificing together. As far as the sex thing goes, if it is sex that you want then i would definitely stay with her. maybe you can convince her to wait 3 months instead of 4 which isnt so bad. Then you can get some tail WHENVER you want. Which is the glorious part of having a gf. Being single can suck a lot of times. It may not be as easy as you think to get some tail (then again, with how stupid most girls in our society are it probly wouldnt be that hard), and you can go some times a HELLUVA lot longer than 3 or 4 months without some tail. But i guess its diff for everyone, as most things in life are. Oh yeah, and dont do coke. Ever. Trust me.
first of all weed is not bad at all, and second if you used before the relationship and she knew she shouldn't be mad.she seems a little controlling.i guess i would try ot talk to her about it and explain to her that she is not your mom
