Is my wife bisexual?

She says she is not. She is a good catholic girl of course.

BUT... she likes to watch girl-girl porn scenes and is immediately aroused.

And during sex if I describe a sexually explicit situation involving her and another women she closes her eyes and can have an orgasm almost immediately.

Previously (during sex) she said that having another woman give her oral sex was exciting and recently (during sex) she said that she was very excited at the thought of giving a woman oral sex.

After sex she will admit to nothing.

I am confused.

 

the good catholic girl cant accept the girl she is religion teaches intolerence of not only others but of ourselves as well
the answers yes but isnt ready to accept it
or at least admit it

 

Talk about it outside of sex. I had at one time talked to my bf like that and then didn't want to talk about it ever again. But he kept asking and telling me things he wanted to do. IT made it a lot easier to open up.

 

but make sure shes confortable & knows your not judgemental & gonna make her feel bad about feeling that way

 

Thats exactly where I am at with this issue.


If I ask her about it outside of sex... she just denies it and says she is not in the mood to talk about it.

Then during sex... just mentioning another woman sends her to orgasm.

Very frustrating.

I feel like if I keep pushing the subject then I am not sure if she is really bi-sexual or just saying she is because I keep bothering her about it.

I also read that most women like girl-girl scenes so maybe she is not bi-sexual.

If she talked about me and another guy during sex... I would totally shutdown. She is the opposite when it comes to women.

 

most women do enjoy girlk girl seens its all about the eroticism & imagery then individual body parts

but i think what your dealling with is that evil religios shame thats kina holding her back

 

So... this is why I am confused.


If most women like girl-girl scenes... how do I know if she is bi-sexual?

She said before that she likes all the eroticism and touching regardless of the gender. Exactly what you just said.

So women that are NOT bi-sexual LIKE girl-girl scenes.

Do women that are NOT bi-sexual talk about women giving them oral sex and vice versa during sex? Can women that are NOT bi-sexual have an orgasm thinking about other women during sex? Do these things mean that she is really bi-sexual?

She says she does not think about it except during sex with me. I am not sure if I believe her. She will comment on women in public by saying a particular woman has a great body. If I smile and say "are you attracted to her??" she will just say "no... but I wish I had that body".

 

well i think hmm i think she is or at least bi curius but it might be in the approach you take if shes curius confused & especialu shameful cause of her religion, you acting like you hope she is isnt goinbg to help her open up it may make her feel likeyou want her to be for your enjoyment
just let her know its ok if she is thats all then stop asking if she likes this that ofr the other & let her find out herself & then she'll let u know
all she needs to know is that that is ok & u accept her as she is however that may be

it shouldnt even really matter..gay bi straight,whatever shes your wife.. that is all

 

To be honest... I would be somewhat aroused if she was bi and could be open about it. I told her that I had a fantasy about her and another woman and she just smiles. She knows I won't judge her but I think she is afraid of the "bi-sexual" label even if its just between us.

 

thats the religion, the shame talking
love is love sex is sex
you love who u love & are attracted to who your attracted to

theres no need for a label between you either
shes your wife shes who she is

 

im gonna wager a guess that shes at least bi curious. there are lots of chicks out there who like lesbian porn because its not as whambahmthankyoumaam as hetero porn is, and they dont have the giant gynecological closeups of pussy-being-fucked action as often.

but shes talking about how hot it would be to actually do those things. so, it sounds a bit more meaningful to me.

this isnt somethign that will change overnight. all you can do is let her know that you love her and accept her for who she is, whatever orientation that may be. this does not mean you must condone her fucking other people, nor does it mean that you should push for a mff threesome. it simply means being open and accepting and giving her time to slowly come around

 

i think alot of women get aroused from seeing other beautiful women pleasure each other, i think it's natural, whether she is a lesbian or bi sexual is not relevent, she is with you.

 

yup i wholeheartily agree with the 2 above posts

what she is dont matter
shes with you thats what matters
definitions limmit
what would chanjge about who she is if you slap a label on her?
you see the girl wth the sunshiney smile in my sig? last month & all her life untill that point, she had the label lesbian & now shes with me
did that label affect our love at all?
hardly!!!
did who she was change when she changed lesbian to bi in her profile?
not at all
do i want her to be bi so we can have a mff threesome? not at all (ok it happened but only because i love them both so much) .. in your relationship your wife should not be defined by her sexuality but by the love you feel for her..

 

My main question is: why does it matter? Are you worried she won't want you anymore, that she will "switch sides"?

I'm bi, sort of -- I DON'T like girl-on-girl photos because men have turned them into something dirty, and would feel pretty awkward if I ever were to "do anything" with another girl, but I DO appreciate other women as beautiful and sometimes feel attracted to them. But I HATE IT when men push me about it -- "oh are you really gay, would you do me and another girl, or do another girl and let me watch, oh yeah take pictures!"
Just leave it alone and stop harassing her.
Oh, and I highly promote atheism, agnosticism, or pantheism. Soaringeagle's right, religion is oppressive and you are playing right into its narrowminded role.

 

agreed
im bi but i dont like watching girl on girl action. it seems so fake, plasticized and like such a media whore child thing. ugh. but women are beautiful to look at and i would date one if i were single and found one who was, well, worth dating heh. high standards with chicks apparently. anywya, bisexuality doesnt mean shes a slut,d oesnt mean she wants a threesome, just means that she finds both genders beautiful

 

DEFINITELLY, 100% BISEXUAL, IF NOT A COMPLETE LESBIAN. I have asked so many women I know if they got turned on by girl on girl action and the answer is always NO, unless they are declared lesbians. As a man I can't get turned on by male on male action, and honestly I don't know who told you people that stright girls get turned on by watching other girls. I think that is the real question here: "Do straight girls get turned on by watching or thinking about other girls?" From my experience in life that's a bunch of BALONEY!

 

Whys it a problem?

Ok shes afraid to admit it- prob cos she doesnt know how u'll react.
Personally bi girls are my favourite
Altho I'm very shallow and sex obsessed

 

In my experience it's guys that get turned on by images while girls typically are turned on by words.

I certainly don't enjoy girl on girl porn but I am bi curious.

I suspect that part of her reluctance is that she doesn't want to be pushed by you into a real girl on girl scene.

If I were you, I'd enjoy that you have buttons to push that work for her during sex and leave it the hell alone.

 

i have a theory about this. i think all women are bisexual because unlike men we can appreciate the beauty of sex a little easier, we can all see a beautiful woman and appreciate her. now before all u guys get mad, its not ur fault and its not all guys but societies views on same sex relationships hits men harder (lesbians are hot, gay guys are gross) its not fair but men are weird lol. anyways the other thing is that there is a big difference between the acceptable mind and the sexual mind, what is ok in bed is sometimes not ok in real life, cut her some slack indulge her fantasies, but that doesnt mean u need to bring in a third party

 

She's catholic... That tells you everything you need to know.