scared to have kids

because of my speaking problem and my weaker right side, Im afraid of having kids, they wont understand me and think of me differently, i dont want that, i want to be a cool mom but this problem is gonna hold me back. i dont hate kids, i hate myself for not getting along with them the best i can. I say i wannaa tie my tubes at 18 cause ill never get over this problem, ill be too damn frustrated to talk to my kid and teach it. i know im only 17, but ill be old enough soon to start thinkin about it seriously...

 

What kind of speaking problem is it?

 

Yeah, what is the speaking problem and what do you mean "weaker right side"...like physically or the functions controlled by the right side of your brain....???

You really should not think of it that way in either case.....your children will not see your problems, they will see their mom.

 

I have cerebal palsy that affects my right side and speech a little.....but then again you have kids that look at you weird and brutally honest kids...not one kid i meet telling me "you talk funny" doesnt bother me...just smile and tell them to go away. Im afraid i might have one of those kids who think their mom is a freak and dont have a good relationship >_<

 

Kids don't see their parents as weird. They just see them as their parents.

 

It seems to me, your kid will grow up, listening to you, so he or she will probably be the one who understands you best.

 

LISTEN TO EVERYONE!!!!

its TRUE ----> your children will not judge you! they will see their mom!

My Dad has Multiple Schlorosis, he has peed his pants in public a billion times, said really wierd things to people, falls, BUT I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!

I dont see him as a freak, I see him as my dad, and I always did,

Dont let that stop you. THEY WILL LOVE YOU AS THEIR MOM!

your being WAYYYYYY to hard on yourself!

Please take in consideration of what ppl said in your thread, before you make some rational choice to get your tubes tied. If you want a baby, dont live the rest of your life regretting that you arent a mom, cus you dont have a good reason.

your special. they WILL know that!

Take it from someone who grew up with a majorly disabled dad!

 

they will be no one more perfect than you to your kids so don't worry to much about it.....in fact they will only see you as mom they most likely won't even notice how you speak and your weaker right side when they look at you they will just see love

 

All the posters above have hit it dead on. A mom who loves her kid is a perfect mom for the kid.