She is supposed to be my best friend but I don’t know I feel I’m a little possessive! Yu know, when she told me that she was going out with a guy I just made up all kind of excuses to stop her! I actually believed he wasn’t right for her, but I’m afraid now that I was wrong that I just want her for myself! I know it’s selfish! But I’m really jalousie and I don’t want her to be with anyone! I did a lot of stupid things because I didn’t want her to go out with him! As he is so stupid and whatever! But I think it’s more than that! I think I can’t stand seeing her with any guy! What is that supposed to mean? Help me I’m confused! She’s like my sister I do not feel like kissing her, but I don’t know, is it just friendship? But I’m not gay I swear to god! I would’ve known if I were gay! I don’t know, I just wish she break up with that guy and he really hates me because I tried to convince her that he wasn’t the one! But I helped her I supported her when she made some decisions like staying with him after a lil problem they had and stuff like that! Well, I don’t know! Help me please!!!! Actually she told me that since she was going out with him “she didn’t care” about me anymore, and the way she behaved was clearly showing that! But she apologized! And I’m not sure I’m able to forgive her after what she did! So the point is I was jealous because she had a boyfriend and she didn’t care about me because she had a boyfriend! So I’m I possessive? Help I’m really confuses you can tell that from my non sense topic I wonder if you can get it! Peace
do you have other friends? if you only have one fnriend and suddenly she has somethign that pulls her away from you (boyfriend, job, new afterschool responsibilities etc) then of course youre going to want to cling to the one stable friend in your life. one of the saddest things about life is that friends come and go, even the exceptionally awesome ones can leave us for a multitiude of reasons. you just have to let her know that yous till appreciate her and still want to be her friend, but give her the freedom she needs (and invest in some own friends or distractions yourself like a job or bf)
well I GUESS you' probably right! only It's hard! really! she is the only one who is likeminded! other people are just jerks!
Hi, Why not take some time now to find a distraction, an activity, hobby/interest that you can enjoy in your free time?
I had a friend like you, and we arent friends anymore. You need to get over it as best you can because if you keep acting like that she wont be your friend at all.
well, wahts somethign that you really like to focus on? somethign that youa nd her share ideologically? both feel stronglya bout he environemnt? why not join an environmental group? and spooner, my best friends have changed over the years... its awesome for you that your friends ahve been solid but people change and grow with time and sometimes you just dont stick together like you want to
My best friend? Conceived on the same property, grew up on the same block, lived together before, live together now. Dunno. I don't see us simply growing apart. Best friend is kind of a misnomer... It doesn't mean your best friend, it means your hetero-sexual male life partner. Or something.
I could've wrote this when I was 16. I swear... almost all of it. Here's what happened. My best friend of four or five years at that point got a boyfriend. Suddenly, I was pushed to the side. I didn't want her to be with him. I was the third person in the relationship because I was single. He hated me because I was also possessive. I began to hang out with other people, other friends for awhile. Then, when thier relationship fell apart, she came to me. And I was the one who picked up all the pieces. I continued to be the one to pick up all the pieces. When I turned 19, I realized that I had feelings for her beyond our friendship. After that, I told her how I felt. She didn't concede. And we went back and forth about it for quite some time. There was one kiss one night when she was drunk. And she told me she loved me. But when she was sober... nothing. 5 and a half years later, I decided that it was time to move on after we had gone our seperate ways, eve though I'd thought about her and missed her every single day. Now, after a few years going our seperate ways, we're friends again. But the feelings are gone. She's in a relationship, I'm single, but things are cool. A good relationship can survive anything I think. But you need to back off on the possession and really ask yourself what you feel in your heart. (And an FYI: I'm not gay, either. I consider myself "undecided".)
i think this happens quite a lot. i got over it when i was 8 or so, but that's only because that's the time at which i experienced it. some people go a lot longer before they experience a great sort of connectedness that they don't want to give up. but all things come to an end eventually.
Maybe she is best of with you both, just accepting her choices. Always try to imagine the situation from the other persons view, it helps. Imagine you have a boyfriend and she wasn't too happy about him, would you like to see your friend lose you for that? Sometimes friends just grow apart, that's right, but sometimes you can stay friends even when there's a big change. Just see what suits you (and her) better!
