Would like to experience Prostate orgasm, but...

Hi

I'd like to experience what prostate stimulation feels like (I've heard it's great). So, not feeling comfortable asking my girlfriend to 'help me out', I've decided to try it myself. I've bought an anal toy designed for the task (a simple vibrator with the head at an angle) and bought water based lube etc... I thought I was all set, but.. Before the massager reaches the prostate it becomes too painful... I'm not sure if pain is the right word, it's more 'preasure and discomfort'. The vibrator only goes in 2 or 3 inches then there's preasure inside the lower abdomen... If I keep pushing it just hurts more so I obviously stop, not wanting to damage anything.. (I've made sure my bowels were empty).

I've read a lot of posts on the subject of anal sex and the general advice of, plenty of lube and relax. Well, I'm using plenty of lube and, although I've never experienced anal sex, I'm quite comfortable having somthing go towards the prostate and I do feel relaxed, going at my own pace.

Every few days I'll try but it's just the same feeling... Am I just been over cautious with the preasure I'm feeling...Should I just keep pushing?

I mean, I've seen videos (unfortunately) of arms up to the elbow going where the sun don't shine... If that's possible... Hell, I'm sure my butt can take a vibe... Right?

Thanks for any advice

Dave

 

i personally do enjoy prostate orgasm. and yeah if your starting out you will feel a little pain about 3 inches in because you have two sphincters. if you relax and dont shove but gently push and almost strain like your trying to have a bowel movement it should go in farther. but its tempting to go deeper and bigger. i ve been doing it for about 3 years now and i still can only go about 6 inches in but people are different and some can go deeper than others.

 

It may just be the angle that your anus is situated in. I have been fucked with a strap-on which has a dildo that curves upward. That upward curve is probably meant to come in contact with my prostate such as when fucking missionary style, but it only goes in comfortably when i do doggie style. Personally, I don't think there is anything wrong with being like that. Not everyone is the same.

 

As a female who loves giving and receiving, this is my advice to you. Get a small (like the size of your finger) anal plug. Insert it just until you feel that pressure...then squeeze for as long as you can. Release it for a minute, then squeeze again for as long as you can. This will relax those muscles, and the discomfort should get less and less. Start with that, very slowly. The key to enjoyment with anal play is practice! You can buy a kit that has graduated sizes of plugs...that might be best for you. And, water based lubes to me are not great. Laugh if you will, but Crisco (yes, the white stuff that is used to make pie-crust, LOL) works very well. Olive oil can also be a good choice. Relaxation is also very important. And...I have to ask, why haven't you talked with your girl about it? Approach it slowly with her...if you're comfortable enough, that is...if she's a freaky girl she might just love the idea!! I love doing my hubby...the orgasms he has are fantastic. Keep at it, the pressure you feel is natural. But, if you experience pain...slow down. Hope this helps!

 

Are you being blocked by your inner spincter? If you can get past the second gate, you are home free. If you aren't sure, then you should feel with your finger.
Don't try to force anything, especially if it is curved. I have found a regular straight dildo to work best. Once in, I can point it straight ahead.
Then I can move it to any particular area that pleases me.

 

Ahh, I do this for my boyfriend. Haha. Try using your finger first and then use something that doesn't have an angle to it. Then you can eventually move on to something with an angle when you get more comfortable.