hey guys im a married curios man with gay fantasies! i met this guy online and we met up one night but i was too scarred to do anything. its my fantasy to be with a guy but i get really scarred when i get really close to doin it. i tease him with pictures with the cell phones and stuff he sends me pics too and j/o videos but still doesnt loosen me up. i met another guy i see myself with this one hes bigger than me chubby wise i like those by the way! hes cool and is willing to do anything like the other guy. i asked them separatly if they would consider a 3some and they both said yes. what do u guys think? should i just go with one and see if i like it or go ahead with the 3some and just get it over with? i get really turned on by my fantasies but after j/o to porn or when my horniness goes away i feel dirty and nasty. any suggestions? i need help!!!
as biida said, definately consult your wife first. but if you feel 'dirty and nasty' after wankin' it to gay porn, then you should try to imagine how you would feel after doing the deeds with those other guys.
Before you do anything,..your wife should know.I'd try to figure what makes you feel dirty too.You'd probably feel much worse if you had sex,maybe much worse after a threesome.If it makes you feel that way you might want to not do anything and maybe even seek counseling if neccessary.Maybe you have'nt fully accepted that you're bi,.and are embarresed and guilty about it with your wife,..I don't know,.If you plan to do anything your wife should know.Some would think its really uncool to be sending and recieving pictures and videos of you and your pals wankin' it.It's only your place to decide whats cool or not. I'd tell her before you go any further. Saying this all out of geniune care, All Good, Joey*
You should mention a threesome to your wife... maybe she would like it! I would love if my fiancee would ask me to do a threesome! You never know!
I think talking to your wife is the most important thing. But if she doesn't respond in a positive way, she may just be very surprised, even shocked. After you talk to her, it will be easier to decide what to do. But I also think that if you feel dirty after relieving yourself while watching porn or whatever, you may need to talk to a sex therapist. Many of us have been taught to believe that homosexuality is wrong, bad, evil, nasty, dirty, etc. I'm curious about other girls; the only reason I haven't done anything with another girl yet is because I'm very shy. I never even kissed a guy until I was 18. If I were you, I'd think about why you feel dirty about it. Chances are, you were told by your parents or other authority figures or just people you had a lot of respect for, that it was disgusting and you've learned that if you do anything like that you're not a real man, or should be ashamed, which is very untrue. My husband has always told me he's totally straight, so it would shock me if I found out he was interested in guys. But I'd be open-minded about it, and hopefully your wife will too. If you do anything behind her back, it could ruin your marriage. That could be another reason you feel dirty-- because you know you're hiding it and feel ashamed that you're not being completely honest with the person you love most.
I don't think like the rest of the members that replied to your question. I think that the reason you may be scared to go through with things it because you think that if your wife found out, she might leave you. If that is the case, ask yourself a couple of questions. 1. If I caught my wife sleeping with another woman, would I be upset that she didn't tell me about her feelings before she acted. 2. DO I really want to be with another guy, or do I want to keep this in my fantacy world. Only you can decide what is right for you. I have been Bi-curious too...... I think I can relate to what is going on in your head. I say give it a try with one of the guys. Just start slow, with exchangeing hand jobs, or something like that. See how you feel after you go back home. Then you will know if you want to take things to the next level with another man, or if it was all a mistake. Just my thoughts. Good luck.
