Is it possible to find two loves?

Ok Ok, so i might be crazy but seriously i think i'm in love with two guys. i met steve back in january and we dated until may and it was perfect. everyone thought we were gonna last and then i made a mistake and cheated on him. it was the worst mistake i've ever made. but i learned from it and knew i would be ok. i met matt in june, and we are perfect for eachother, while steve and i are exact oppisites. matt and i do everything together and we're just so in love, even my parents love him....hah they hated steve. i'm so happy with matt..but i always have these dreams about steve...and i think about all the good times we had. someone pleaseeeeeee help!! tell me what to do :&

 

find out who makes you happy now. You say you are in love with matt and he makes you happy now, so why are you thinking about steve? If you think about the past with stve, why? Can it be the way it was again? I would just try to figure out exactly why you want to be with them, and see which is more important to you. And talk to them about it, get some input. Telling them how you feel may reveal who loves you more. It may hurt one of them or you, but it is necessary sometimes.

 

How could you not find at least two loves in your life? If it happens at the same time, it happens. Love everyone.

 

THANK YOU! I so have realized matt is the one. and i don't know why i was thinking back to steve. Probably because i remembered the good times we shared but that was just a stage in my life. Matt shows that he cares for me so much, and i don't think that will ever change. but it's just when i fight with him, i think about steve. but i don't know why because i fought with steve too!!! GRRR....

 

I certainly hope so, because for almost four years I have been in love with someone... We were together almost three years, but then some stuff happened and we can't be together now. I know I will always love him and probably even be in love with him, but I hope and know that there is enough love in me to be able to fall in love with someone else too.

 

I know that i have fallen in love with matt, i think i have realized that i lusted steve because i did a pros and cons kinda thing in my head...(i know it sounds corny :H ) but it worked. i realized that steve was just in it for the fun, where i was too in a way, but i'm a loving person who wants to find a true love. matt is who i need, because that's what he wants too!

 

"Love" has always seemed a tricky thing with me... I guess it depends on your definition and belief of what it is when it comes to intimate relationships, right? I'd find it hard to believe that I could fall in love with someone else while being in love with whoever I'm with.... seems like a paradox, almost! For starters, I don't think you can fall in "love" with someone unless you're in a healthy relationship with them. The only time I've ever known love is when I was giving it and receiving it.

I do know what some of you are saying though. There are some of my ex's that are floating around out there I would say I still love, I just think it's a different manifestation of love. That ethereal incantation that is "love" can only be understood by those that are in it, imo.

Love is you
You and me
Love is knowing
We can be

~John Lennon