19yrs Old and Needs Advise...

Are ladies out of Michigan like me? Oh, honey, no one is like me...

If you don't trust people, you're going to be a lonely, lonely person...and it's unfair to automatically have distrust in people. I think you're insecure...because that's what it sounds like. You're putting up a defense mechenism so you don't get hurt...that's fine...but immature. If you really care about her, give her a chance. If she hasn't done anything yet to give you any reason to distrust her, then what makes you think she is going to?

Have you been cheated on in the past? Did one of your parents cheat on one another? Are they divorced? Trust me...these all add up to why you have trust issues.

 

thats more mature. When problems arise they generally have more to do with you than whomever. Whomever can cause you problems, but it's up to you how you deal with them.

why be unmedicated? you admit you are bipolar...

My brother is skizophrenic and autistic, and I believe in the super natural spiritual realm and ghosts and all that shit, but when he talks about beings talking to him, I tell him to take his meds, to find out if it's him or if it's real. you just don't know if you have a disorder and you are unmedicated. if you get medicated and it's the right medication than wouldn't you know the answers?

 

Yes.The girl i lost my virginaity cheated on me. My parents are to gether, and neither have cheated.

 

I got tired of trying their cocktails , trying pills that didnt do anything, trying pills that sent me into mania. and all the people i see would give me greeff over smokeing herb, and i felt at the time (2years ago) that weed was doing me just fine on my manic days and well enough on depressed days.

I take acid , shrooms and mescaline now.... so that might of effected my mood but idk... most the time i dont notice it effecting me , possibly cuz im just usd to it

 

maybe look into holistic healing if you don't like the pills?

 

Maybe you ought to just stick to weed, then.

 

whats that

 

As posted in True Confessions:

TAKE YOUR FREAKIN' MEDS BEFORE YOU HURT SOMEONE!!!!!

 

I dont think me being off my meds has much to do with my confession.
Those thoughts and urges are not a manic depressed sort of thing if im manic i think that way, if im depressed i think that way. Its constent.

Ps i really didnt get a boner writting that, i just added that for kicks.

 

Its not lame at all, people have sexual needs and I think that maybe she might be being a little lame on the whole refusing the give head front - I mean the key to every successful relationship is successful and fulfilling sex. I don't care what anyone says because this is just true. If you're not happy in the sack, chances are you're not happy at all.
On top of this he's saying that he doesn't trust her anymore and has started using condoms, This is another thing. Trust is a very important thing in a relationship, so if you (the poster) don't trust her I would ask her to get a test of somesort. If she refuses it may be out of embarressment, but if she doesn't have anything to hide, she'll get the test *for you*.

 

This thread is like the special olympics.

a)You're relationship is far from normal. Even in highschool (where I was an asshole that would put you to shame), I didn't have relationships that shallow.

b)You're a fucked up unit. I'll give you some general advice. Lay off the acid. Lay off the weed. Start taking meds. You have to come to terms with the fact that you need to level yourself out.

 

wow, for open minded hippies this thread sure is full of hostility...

 

natural healing. healing of the soul. I'm sorry but to explain what that means.... well I wrote a ten page report for it for college and I still couldn't explain it as well as I wanted to. Google. I'm sorry, but if I have energy later I will look, but I don't feel like it right now.

basically problems in your soul, or subconscious/conscious mind, mainfest in the body. It's the body's way of telling you something is wrong on a deeper level. I am not a holistic healer, I train to be in my person time, but please look into it if pills are not helping.

and example of holistic healing

armotherapy
reflexology
reiki
laying down of the hands

etc etc etc.

 

making a list of someones pros & cons & a list of things you want fullfilled that they arent fullfilling (yeh we all do it sometimes, make these lists in our heads) is a sure sign that your probably not really in love... cos when you are in love you tend not to do this. as for the sexual hangups, how many times have you made this girl cum? make her happy in bed & she will want to return the favor right? give her the orgasm of her life & she might relax up enough to want to give you head.... i can undertsand not wanting it in the ass though specialy when a guy is demanding it, some girls have to be really turned on befor they want to try something new so try giving her some special attention in the bed

 

Hmmm , lots of women dont like it up the arse.
Theyre probably lesbians

OK Ok that was a joke
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It sounds like uve got a lot of pressure in the situation and youre trying to make it harder.CHill out on the drugs abit.Your brain's still growing at 19 and the drugs are too much of an extra burden.
Personally I dont think bad tempers in a relat are healthy , altho other people might disagree.I had a terrible temper at 19 but I try and analyse a situation now and realise losing my temper is a sign of weakness on some occasions.

Communication and striking an agreement and then keeping to it are the key.
The bit about oral is strange , maybe shes still young and lacks confidence with it , maybe u need to discuss it.
Good luck!
Id say its unlikely as a 19 yr old that uve already met your future Mrs , but who knows?Only communication can get the solution.

 

don't be so judgmental people. the guys needs fucking advice not a verbal bashing about the person that he is.
1. i disagree with just about everyone here...are any of them manic depressive? im assuming no. i am...well i was thought to be for years and years of my life( later reevaluated with b.p.d.). and i understand how hard it is to be in any kind of relationship with a problem like that. i get so fucking pissed when people are like " Yeah just take your meds." like NOT taking them is the stupid decision. guess what people, those meds make you a fuckin zombie. any of you want to put away all your emotions, good and bad, to be "normal"? no thanks. i would rather be a little crazy. no one understands this unless you have been though it. im going to assume (correct me if im wrong) that you have taken your medication and you prefer to self medicate yes? i do the same thing. i quit all of the 5 different drugs i was PRESCRIBED and traded them in for just one (heh occasionally other natural ones) but i smoke pot on a daily basis and it helps more than any other thing ive put in my body.this is not autism or schizophrenia. you dont see things that way. im telling you, if this is your problem, herb is the best medicine money can buy. it helps you sleep (often bi polar and insomnia go hand in hand) and helps you eat when you are depressive and really helps with the depression too. when you are manic it keeps you from bouncing off walls. if you don't understand the problem, don't try to dish out a solution. especially if the solution is just the easiest thing you can think of. like take your meds so we can ignore your problem.
2. like i said before it is hard to have any kind of relationship with a disorder like this. no matter how much you like someone or care for them, the smallest things can piss you off or irritate the hell out of you and there is no way to stop it(when you are manic primarily).its hard for the other person to deal with this as well, because half the time they dont know what the fuckin deal is.and if you do care for someone and you want the relationship to work, i have found that you just have to be upfront about it. let them know what the are getting themselves into so to speak. because its easier for them to deal with, if they know what to expect and how to handle it.have her do her research on bi polar so she can understand what you are going through.
3.SEX IS A HUGE PART OF A RELATIONSHIP. i dont care what kind, its a big deal. and if are not satisfied, there obviously will be problems. you are 19 and there is nothing, NOTHING wrong with wanting to be adventurous in bed. however, you have only been with this girl for 3 months. it took my boyfriend 2 years to get me to try anal and sorry to be blunt, but i love it. its just getting over the whole perception that it is degrading or embarrassing. and then again some people just dont like it at all. but you cant knock it if you dont try it. head is the same way, some girls feel like its gross or degrading, but when you reach a point of comfort with her, she may be more willing to let you try other things. you cant demand it though, you just cant. she has to want to do it or its going to feel dirty and uncomfortable to her. and most girls our age dont like to feel dirty yet.just give that whole thing some time. let her know that sex isnt everything to you but it does mean something in your relationship and you want to do these thing but you want her to be comfortable as well.
4. uuhh...lets see trust. this goes back to the bi polar thing just a little. now, let me know if this is wrong because everyone is different. It is extremely hard to trust anyone when you have a disorder like this. its a very black and white world. no gray areas really. you are ok with joe untill joe does something to piss you off then you are absolutely NOT ok with joe. little things will change a situation very quickly. things that other people would ignore or maybe not even notice. but having such a mental state leave very little room for trust. and shit man, trust is not something that is there untill proven otherwise. it is something you earn. maybe you dont have a reason to not trust her but you dont have a reason TO trust her either. its like having 0 credit. keep in mind though that you cant have a relationship based on jealousy.that just wont work....ever.
look man, i know its hard but its not something that will go away, you have to accept it and learn to know when you are wrong. just smoke more weed...everyday. and it will be fine.

 

LLOOLL!! @ this doctor Phil shit...

 

i voted let her go. You dont deserve her, it sounds like your an ass towards her.

Break up with her and get your head/mind straight.

 

Lay off the cid, and take yer meds....yer lucky you have anybody. No GF's in the padded room bro !