Masturbation help please?!?!

Ok, so I am 17 years old...I just started getting curious about masturbation...and it started after softball this season...some of my teammates were talking about it, and saying how they did it all the time...well, I had never done it...and still dont really think I have....I have touched myself, and tried doing it, but I feel sooo akward.....and than, I started thinking in my head about the girls on my team that do it, and that kind of turned me on i think...so than i freaked out!! I have never been a sexual person, and i never even thought about anything with another girl...but now its turning me on....I am hoping some younger girls that are going through something similar, or have been through some of the same things can help me out with anything!! advice, technices, pictures...i donno...something!!!

PLEAASEE HELP!!!

 

well thanks!!! lotta help that was!!

 

Well I'm not a girl, so I can't give you the exact kind of advice you are looking for, but I'll give it the ol' college try. First off, it's completely ok and natural what you are feeling. Being turned on by other women doesn't automatically make you gay. You are simply curious. If you'll pardon my Freudian thinking, I don't think you're turned on by the girls themselves, but by the fact that they masturbate and now masturbation interests you. Although I could obviously be wrong. As for techniques, this has been my experience with other women: Take it slow. Be comfortable. Go with whatever fantasy turns you on. I hope this helped, and I'm sure someone else, (who doesn't have a penis) will come along and give you more specific advice.

 

thanks!!! at least someone has said something!!! And i think your right about the curiosity thing......like, i have been on here alll night looking for porn...and i have found some....but it doesnt do anything for me....but, the thought of girls on my team and some girls i know that are my age and younger doing it, gets me going for some reason!! And thats what worried me....all this fake, done up porn with these fake girls with fake boobs and these ugly guys with huge dicks just doesnt do anything for me...maybe there is something wrong....i dont know

 

No, there is nothing wrong with you. You'll find tons of perfectly "normal" people who don't get turned on by porn. My advice is do what turns you on. You'll be suprised at how powerful fantasys can be, and how they can lose all that power after you explore them.

 

yea, but i dont wanna ask my friends to do it with me!! I would be wayyy too embarrased....but, i wish i could watch them or something....and see how they do it....it really excites me to think about them doing it in front of me.....but i watch these webcam videos of girls older than me doing it, and it does nothing for me....i just dont get it....


and not only that, but i dont know what im doing...i have only tried three times, and i have never got any feelings of what i think an orgasm would be...so i want see them get to that point....or i think watching them would get me going enough to maybe orgasm or whaever

 

Haha, I understand that. But I'm just talking about imagining it. Just take some time one night, and slowly explore yourself. See what feels good for you. If the thought of other girls masturbating turns you on, go with it.

 

thats what i am trying to say.....the thought of girls masturbating does turn me on...but just them....not all these webcam videos of older girls.....they just dont do it for me.....i tried tonight by looking at the videos i could find online, and i just couldnt do anything.....but when i started thinking about my friends doing it, or just random girls i know from my school, i got turned on...but i really think it would be sooo hot to watch them do it!! and i dont know how to approach it...or get pictures from them...

 

Well you know your friends better then anyone here will. If you have a very good friend who you think will understand, or at least not completly freak out, start a conversation about masturbation with them. See where it leads.

 

im wayyyy to nervous and self conscience to do that.....do you kno any young girls on here, or wherever that might show me something??? see if looking at pictures might help?!? I donno

 

i guess nobody can really help?!

 

Well it seems to me you could just use your imagination lol. What is the difference between seeing pictures or videos from people on here rather then from some porn site?

 

To me, normal porn doesn't really do much, but pictures of your average person and not a porn star turns me on way more. I guess it's just the thought that it's just another normal person like me and they're really enjoying themselves and it's just not some job they do to entertain people. I don't know. Just a thought.

 

I honestly couldnt have said it any better.....watching porn dvds, or looking at these done up girls on the internet, just dont do it i guess......and its not so much just people on here would do it, im just trying to figure it out....my boyfriend knows i dont wanna have sex until we are married...who knows if i will be with this guy for that long, but nonetheless, sex just has nevere been important to me at all!! Like I said before, im just now kind of intrested in getting myself off...but it seems like what gets me going is listening to my friends talk about doing it...and than the thought of them doing it in my head makes me feel good....so, i figured watching some girls on the internet would do it for me...but that didnt either!! So i dont know if its just my friends that do it for me, or if its the thought of girls my age doing...or what?!?! soooo confussedddddd!~!~!~! BLAHHHHHH

 

go here http://uncyclopedia.org/wiki/Masturbation
This should give you a basic idea of what to do (its not porn)

 

Have you tried posting in the Women's Issues forum....This may provide better answers and this one for serious "I need female advice" ???????

 

i just posted a topic in the womans help forum...thanks!!! Ill see if someone helps me there

 

The imagination is the greatest tool that the human mind possesses. When I first started masturbating, I didn't use porn (that's changed), but instead lived out my fantasies in my head involving girls at school.

Just close your eyes and think about it, picture it, listen to it, do whatever feels good.

 

It sounds to me like you are just some old guy soliciting pictures of young girls.

 

Here is a cool female masturbation site I used to go to http://www.ifeelmyself.com/public/main.php its not free but they are amateurs and the videos on there are quite a turn on to watch.