So some where in high school my self esteam took a huge dump, and I dropped out of most social interaction, hanging out with only a few close friends and not even attempting to go out and meet more people. I became pretty deppressed in that time, and gave up the idea of dating all together. Well it's been about two years sence than and I must say I fell much better about my self now. I'm pretty conffident and am no longer scared to approach people, but... in that time I fell I missed out on a lot of social growth. While I don't have the fear to go and talk to girls, I just don't know what to say... I missed out on all the stupid three day highschool flings and now I don't know how to start anything up. I guess what I really need is a quick refresher course.p) What do you think?
Find a social activity you can join where the girls are and make friends with them. Take an interest in them and what they like. Once you get to know them, and have shared interests, a relationship may develop. It's that easy.
^^ clubs for anything you're interested in, ie tennis club to be honest, ive met the bulk o fmy boyfriends online through free dating sites (plentyoffish and okcupid are two that come ot mind).. we talk via email/pm for a while then go out for coffee and have a converesation there to suss out how we interact. thats how i met my current bf who i plan on marrying
Are you enrolled in a University or College? Because there's always a way to meet somebody at college. It can be as simple as asking someone what time it is and trying to strike up conversation, or meeting somebody in class, or going to a social event like a basketball game. Just try and find some common ground and chat like you would a friend, get to know them a little. The courage to ask someone out will come if you want it enough or if you're attracted to them enough to do so. Just let it flow, be yourself. I don't really like clubbing and the beach isn't my ideal place to meet a girl, so I approach girls more at concerts, because it's where I'm most comfortable. So just find whatever works for you. Nobody can tell you to go to a specific place to meet somebody you like. Be yourself. As long as you're a nice guy and you shower on a semi-regular basis, you should be fine. You're overestimating the social rift that occurred in high school. I thought the same thing when I graduated from high school, but college changed things for me. If you're not going to college, talk to the cute girl who works at the coffee shop, or flirt with whoever's bagging your groceries. If you're worried about not knowing what to say, experiment with different lines and stuff in a closed, controlled environment. Go a few towns over to a club and try your luck. If things don't work out for you, you probably won't see any of the people again (so it's hard to be embarrassed), and change your approach. Everyone is different. No single line works on any girl and if you do things somebody else's way then it's not natural and it's going to be harder and harder to sustain over time. Good Luck.
