I have a guy friend who I have been having a friends with benefits relationship with for 7 years now. We don't see each other very often,(every few months) but when we do sex always happens. The question is when we hang out, it almost seems like a date. There is always touching, kissing etc that doesn't seem sexual. When he gets drunk he makes comments like "let's run away together" and refuses to be aroud the guy I'm currently dating. I'm not really interested in ending the relationship, I just need to know if this is normal behavior for guys in this situation or if I need to beware of any feelings he may have that he's not telling me because I'm with someone else. Any answers or help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance!
I think he wants to take the relationship beyond mere animal sex to actually being more than just a stiff cock to you...
does your "boyfriend"know that you cheat on him every few months??you've been sleeping with this guy for 7 years why aren't you in a relationship with him?and who do you actually have feelings for? does your boyfriend have someone he sleeps with every few months??
My boyfriend doesn't sleep with someone else every few months, he barely even sleeps with me! I'm not even sure how long he could go without, because I always break down and initiate it, usually after 3 or 4 months. It was this way before I started with this other person. I know it's not the right thing to do. I think on some level he does know about the other person. We have a child together and although I know what i'm doing is selfish, I feel it would be selfish to my child to leave his father because of sexual incompatibility. I've always had feeling for this other guy, but I know our lives are incompatible, so I'm the one who is standoffish. I love my boyfriend in my own way, I think we respect each other as people, but aren't meant to be together. Most of the time he treats me as his roomate and slave. It's always been this way. I can't ever remember a point in our relationship that I felt desired or wanted by him. He told me many years ago that he wasn't "in love with me" and yet we've hung on for the sake of our child. We don't fight and lead quite separate lives. I know that doing what I'm doing is just my way of trying to find some intimacy, not just sex, that my relationship lacks. At this point we can't afford counseling.We've talked time and time again about the sexual issues and the intimacy issues until I feel as if I'm banging my head against a wall. I know at some point I will end the relationship with my boyfriend, but that doens't mean I'm going to get into a relationship with the other guy. If I think he is having feelings, than I need to aware of it so as not to cause more of a train wreck than I already have.
i hope it works out for you, sometimes we get ourselves in a rut that we just can't seem to get out of, i do know this from experience you can both be great parents without being tgether, sometimes it's the best thing to do......
Memyself - you have to do something to better your life. The child must know there is little love there between you. Perhaps counseling will help, if you can find the money - it is your life, live it, don't lose it.
