Let me explain my story. I am 16 and my g/f for the past (almost) 2 years is 18, we actually just moved in together about 6 months ago too. I live in CA and she is from MN, but she moved out to CA for school a little over 2 years ago. We have had our ups and downs like every relationship, but this is by far the worst. Here it goes...This summer my g/f went back out to MN to visit family for a month and a half. I would have gone with her but I can't afford it. Well, while she is out there, she says she met a guy who is really cool and hot, but he is 14. She says she is falling for him and starting to think of me more and more as a friend. Now obviously this is killing me inside. I love her with all of my heart. We are eachother's first loves. I'm thinking that she is just missing a male figure like me in her life or she is sexually frustrated and I'm hoping that she will come to her senses when she comes back in a little over a week. I have talked to a good friend of mine too and he says she probably will, but I just don't know. I mean, do you really fall in love with someone else in a month and just forget all about someone you had a 2 year relationship with?? Sorry i just needed to get this off my chest and tell some ppl. Any comments are greatly appreciated!
you are a quite a young age to be dealing with such an issue, honestly that really sucks dude, I sympthasize much for you and sorry, but I've been up far too long to sugarcoat this for you look at your options here: a) she never felt for you as much/how she thought she did, fell for this boy b) she got lonely quickly, overtook her feelings, fell for this boy c) she has some kink about barely pubescent boys, you are older, fell for this boy either way, she fell for this boy can you live with that and be with her? if you can, you guys have a chance IF she wants to give you a chance and don't get so hung up on the first love part, sometimes first loves are just there to make way for the second loves basically, try your best to be calm and optimistic about every possibility, and wait for her move in whatever happens I hope you the best
It souds like that at 14 you had a summer romance with the Minnesota girl, then 16, and she came out to LA for college, and you moved in with her. But you are still in high school, and two years age difference at that age is huge. She may have outgrown you, unfortunately. But you have had some very adult experiences for someone only 16, and you will grow from it, and be a better man and lover in the future. Keep your spirits up.
It sounds like that at 14 you had a summer romance with the Minnesota girl, then 16, and she came out to LA for school (prep school? college?), and you moved in with her. But you are still in high school, and two years age difference at that age is huge. She may have outgrown you, unfortunately. Or she really has a thing for guys just reaching puberty, and you are well past that. An 18 year old (male or female) seducing a fourteen year old is statutory rape in many jurisdictions. But you have had some very adult experiences for someone only 16, and you will grow from it, and be a better man and lover in the future. Keep your spirits up.
