gay men having children = one big question?!

Okay, so I'm doing a little research on parenthood and I have one BIG but little question itching for an answer.

So... *drum roll*

-If a gay man (...say a somewhat feminine type of a guy) has a son, will his son automatically ACT gay?

Hmm? Because I do know of a transexual who's father is feminine. And I want to know, was that because of...hmm...genetics that he became gay? Or probably because he grew up watching his father, who dresses like a normal guy, but is feminine?

-If a gay man had 3 sons... what are the chances that all of them will act straight/gay?

 

Your question is revolving around the incorrect stereotype that all gay men are feminine....

 

he said if

 

read again please.. im only trying to find out about FEMININE gays having children..

 

Have you any idea how offensive this thread is, unless of course I'm reading this wrong and you actually like the idea of feminine men and want to think of ways to increase this, but some how I think not
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How does one "act gay"...?

 

really..this post is controversial.. lets just say that its not meant to offend anyone.. anyone could read it and take some parts i said the wrong way..but really, all i want to know is.. if a feminine man has a kid.. specifically a son..is there a high chance that his son will become a gay man or a straight man? as simple as that..

it really doesnt matter because everyone is born the way they are, right? but scientifically speaking..id like to know if it has to do with genetics or growing up in a certain environment (i.e: growing up with a gay father)

if you take this offensively there's really something wrong with you.. it was 2am when i made this thread so i probably used a few wrong words.. like the above person asked "how does one ACT gay?" you can replace ACT with 'become gay, etc' .. DONT get offended..

 

I don't think that being raised my a feminine guy will turn a boy gay. I think that the boy will eventually grow up and be attracted to whoever he's attracted to without any influence from his dad. If my chance he turns out to be gay though, I think that the boy will be much more comfortable accepting it if his own dad was gay than if his dad was not gay.

 

Good point.

But does anyone have a clue if genetics have anything to do with being gay? Have you ever thought, probably your great great grandfather was gay? Or your dad, who just never came out and never will? It makes me think.

 

Firstly, not all gay men are neccesarily feminine. One of my close friends it probably the most macho kinda guy ull ever meet, and yet hes gay.

But seeing as you are relating your answer to the "feminine gays", ill answer accordingly.

I dont think the question really has a right or wrong answer. I mean its difficult to interpret. I think that if the father is living with the child then yes it is possible for him to inherit his gayu tendencies, acting "feminine" as you say. But i dont think this is always the case. Although the risk may in fact be higher its not exactly true. Conducting a survey for homosexuals to answer would be the best way to answer your question.

Being homosexual is not genetic. So whats to say that a gay mans child with also be gay?

Naima

 

you people are just being nitpicking assholes

he tried not to offend someone, and the way you are acting is more likely to put him off of people of your type than anything

I've known four kids that were raised by gay couples
however they were all raised by lesbian couples
of those 4, 0 are gay, and one acts stereotypically gay :tongue:

I really don't think there is a gene for being gay
and I think everything we know abotu why people become the people they are isn't even skimming the surface
if the enigma was the centerpoint of the core of the earth, we would be the Star Wars galaxy

 

duck, you really have a point there. I agree to the full extent.

In conclusion, it makes sense to say that being gay isn't genetic at all, and it's pretty naive to think of it that way. I guess it all deals with the human mind. If a child starts to mature, whatever it's mind sets itself on (i.e: to desire a male/female) is how it's going to be. I guess being so-called 'straight' is just how life has been due to the fact that a male and a female can produce an offspring. And on the other hand, the fact that masculinity is present in the vast majority of MEN in the world. So being gay, or attracting to a same sex, has always been a taboo. Today, it's pretty different. So many people have been fighting against their beliefs lately. Which is why, in my opinion, the gay community will probably be experiencing big GOOD changes in the future. Who would've thought gay marriage would've ever been accepted anywhere? Gay parades, gay clubs, gay movies, or in one word "gay entertainment". So I guess gay men having gay children shouldn't be an issue at all.

 

it hasn't always been taboo. judeo/christian mythology based upon the patriarchal model of society wherein property is passed through the male line instead of the more sensible female line is where the harsh strictures on reproductive rights and love began.

anyway, you're going to be gay or you're not. everyone has at LEAST a gay cousin, to quote chris rock. dave's cousin was in a very close, very christian, very macho kind of family.. he's still an effiminately gay man. of course he's still accepted. it takes a special kind of evil to hate someone you've loved your whole life just because it turns out they're gay, and they're just not that kind of evil.

 

[quote - Sodapop]-If a gay man (...say a somewhat feminine type of a guy) has a son, will his son automatically ACT gay?
[/quote] Hell no. It's a matter of experience. I think most people who are (And Fuck I hate labels!) Ahem. Gay, Bi or straight will make thier own choices based on both life experience and emotions.

Just my 5c. (Used to be 2c. Inflation hits everything. LoL)

 

Okay so I blew it on the code. Srry.

 

No, by no means will a child being raised by a feminine father cause that child to "become" or "behave" gaily. Although, the child may adopt some of his father's traits, it probably wouldn't be enough to completely dominate that child's personality.

Interesting thread

 

Dude theres no freakin answer to this question. No one on here can honestly answer with a yes or no.

I think the only thing I could say is that if a guy is raised by a gay father, Im sure the guy will be more likely to accept homosexuality rather than think its strange and weird...so in that sense he might be more comfortable about the whole thing, but I dont believe it would make someone turn gay.

 

Oh Mary, pulllEEEEEze !

 

I think it depends. I act alot like my dad, and I have my mom's temper, so you will naturally inherit things from your parents, just not everything.

 

Feminine or masculine......hmmm......
That's another stereotype and way of seperating people into categories.....imo
Personally I am masculine in most ways-externally--and feminine in others-that are less outward.
I believe most people are a combination of both......lol

But(!)
To answer your question-
My partner and I are a gay male couple-
And have managed to raise a completely STRAIGHT son---
And our daughter happens to be a lesbian.
My niece is also gay-
Where as my nephew is completely straight---

Anyway-so yes gay men can raise a boy-and the boy CAN turn out to be straight as an arrow.

When subjects such as these are discussed-lol-I always like to throw in the fact that both my mother and father were straight--yet somehow they created me-
Raised me in the midst of their Christian-straight-lifestyle---and I somehow turned out to be gay.
Food for thought.

Hope this helps.


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