I have only had 1 bi experience and that was about a year ago where i met a guy online and ended up meeting and gave him a blowjob. since then i've been having trouble with not finding any partners local. Is there anything i need to be doing to try to find a partner other than online. I live in a small town that talks alot and don't want it to get out. thanks for any help...
I wouldn't know about dating so much but you can't worry about it getting around if you want a proper relationship - if you tell people then maybe others will pluck up the courage and come out as well and you could get a few mates but then again easier said then done...
It's tough to find someone if you keep it a secret,.. That's been a problem in my life, I mean if no-one knows your bi then there gonna assume you straight and not want to approach you about it.Then if you tell people you're gonna have to deal with some put-downs,.and stuff that is'nt pleasent from some ignorant people and homophobes.It's really a catch 22.At least thats how its been for me.I agree with IlUvMuSIc, If you want a proper relationship and you let people know your bi and single,you maybe surprised by others who'll approach you but that is deffinetely much easier said than done.I think it's about choices. It sucks also to be in a small town,bigger citys with more people are usually more accepting because there are many different people and also that way it would be easier to find a partner.I know how it is I live in a small town too. Wish you the best of luck,. Joey*
I've found two of my boyfriends on myspace, talked to them, and went to see them. One ended up being the most amazing summer of my life and one didn't really last too long, but he was a real sweetheart =) I just am not very good at one on one meetings randomly unless I've talked to them first and gotten to know them a little.
This is the best advice you can get for coming out and getting into a relationship, it's just a painful compromise: pursue a more promising chance of intimacy with like minded people and endure problems caused in society or your immediate environment for example within your circle of friends and / or your potentially surprised / shocked family. There are only two realistic options. Best of luck to anyone under this sort of strain.
films and TV series also like to make it look as though this sort of secretive mutual spontaneous intimacy is possible but it is unbelievably far fetched and no doubt the fantasy of people suffering from the strain of hiding their sexuality. the fact of the matter is if you take action you are much more likely to succeed in finding partners, intimacy, etc...
Yea I think that the medias portrayal of the Glbt community is pretty insulting and inacurate,really giving straights the wrong impression of who we are. So many people are suffering from the strain of hiding it,but diffenetely it will be much more easier to find partners if you're out. J
