I need all the advice I can get

First off, I apologize for the length of this post, but I will be as brief as possible. I have been a bisexual now for at least 10 years, but not openly so. I have never done more than kissed a man, and the only relationships I have ever had were with women. Two years ago, I went through a very painful divorce from a woman I believed was my soulmate. I have since developed somewhat of a trust issue with female relationships, and although I have been sexually attracted to men before, I have never imagined myself in a relationship with one before. I have recently been thinking about a living with a man in a long term relationship, and I think I am finally comfortable with that . Okay, so my question is, now that I have made peace within myself about my choice to be with another man, how do I go about making this happen? I am completely ignorant of the gay lifestyle here in the U.S., and I am not looking for a one night experiment, but I need advice on avoiding stereotypes and help in finding someone safely. In short, now that I have made my decision, what next?

 

just go places and meet people. if you want to avoid the stereotypes, just act like you do now. go to a gay bar and maybe look for the most non-flamboyant gay man? if you do, let him know you're not intrested in a one night stand, and if he agrees then maybe go on a few dates and see how you feelwith him.