i was and still kind of am totally in love with this guy. we went together for a long time and then he dumped me for another girl...but after about two months he wanted me back so i gave him another chance...after that cycle happened about 5 times we both decided it would be better if we were friends with benefits. then he told me he loved me and swore hed never love anyone besides me. i had a feeling that he had another gurl but when i asked him about it he said he didnt and then we got into an arguement yesterday and he said that he hated me and that he had another girl...he even did the one thing he knows hurts me calling me "crazy mother fucker" and "bitch" just trying to hurt me. i really loved this guy...how can i trust another guy not to do the same as he had?
Oh come on, you are not being honest when you claim that someone calling you bitch hurts you the most. There is a popular license plate frame here in LA that reads, "I am not a bitch, I am THE bitch. Get it right!" To call a woman a bitch means that she has power. Now, call a woman a ****, and that is a very different matter, that really makes them steam, or low class whore, or something like that, and it does the trick, but to call virtually any woman a bitch doesn't get their goat at all, and for you to claim that this got your goat so badly is so clearly untrue that I can only think that it is a ploy. Similarly, being called a mother fucker is an insult to a man, that digs deeply, but too a woman? So what if you are a lesbian and seduced somebody's mother? Once again, it is a statement of power for a woman, not a digging insult. I don't buy most of your story, but perhaps there is some truth to this and you would like to be more honest about the truth and your feelings about it? If so, then I would give you caring advice just as I do to TravisBurner. If the general details of your story is true, then the error is in either demanding monoguemy from a boy that is too young, or acquiessing to being "friends with benefits" to an older man that is old enough to settle down. Maybe the answer is simply to keep your legs shut and demand that your virtue be respected in a relationship. I know that this is very hard once a girl has had sex, my grandmother once warned me, knowing that an extremely beautiful 16 year old from our town was hitting on me hard that, "once a girl has sex she can't stop." She was right, it turned out that, after crying on my chest for two hours, this girl told me about all the guys in the community that she had screwed before me. Ugh, well, that was that, and I still feel some guilt that I simply couldn't love her anymore, she had some very spiritual attributes, but it was already too late. Guys just can't handle that, don't ever tell him, just change your ways and keep it too yourself, or simply forget about ever finding true love with anyone that you really respect.
ur some what right about the whole name calling thing...it didnt really hurt as much as it annoyed me that he said that just wanting to hurt me. it wasnt even about sex cuz we never actually had sex. we just had a lot of dry sex or does that count. ur rite i need to be honest about the situation before i can handle it...well i told my best friend to tell him some random thing i said when i was high and i dont even remember wat it was then me and him got into this big arguement...he had told me about a week ago that he really loved me and swore that he would never find another gurl...but in the middle of our arguement he told me that he did have another gurl...i kno i shuldnt be upset because we arent even going out but i cant really help but get upset cuz i love him so much...so now he like hates me and really wants nothing to do with me.
He sounds like a total jerk. Dump him, and forget all about him. You don't love him, you're just blinded, you can't love him because you don't really know him if he was lying to you all the time.
you can't call it love if it isn't reciprocated. you need to work on your self-esteem so you won't have this fatal attraction to guys who treat you badly. i suggest you google self-esteem and start reading.
he is a jerk...but thats the whole point i kno him so well i culd tell he had another gurl without him telling me so...we werent even going out tho the problem was that he lied about not having another gurl and about loving me not the fact that he had another gurl if he had just told me i wouldve been ok with it but since he lied all the time idk if i can trust myself to trust any other guy
..............what about your new bf?.........................john?..................personally i think he'll help you heal.................
yea freak ur rite he is helping me. i wrote this wen i was still kinda hurt by the fact scum had lied but watever im over it
i disagree with your statement tha toyu can't call it love iif it's not reciprocated. i have loved a couple of men in my life that didn't love me in return.i still loved them, even though they didn't love me back.i do however agree that she should boost her self esteem and try to find half way decent guys to "love".
Hun ive seena friend go through this... and it's not love....it more like a dangerous obssession...which can be easily taken for love. If you dont see him for a month or so i bet you'll have no interest in getting back with him after you see him again. Thats what my friend did and when they saw each other again they realized that it wasnt love it was just a viscious obssessive cycle. You need t o try ur hardest to get out of it. Someone can really get hurt...im sure you are already...but these kind of relationships can turn violent. And who know's mb u r really inlove with him....but i dont think he is with u...even though he could be. But all i can see is obssession from what youve said. Good luck thougth. I pray u dont get hurt again.
Blackheart, I apologize for what I said earlier. I'm paranoid about people giving false identities. Especially when approaching teens. I've also been in a terrible mood, but things are quickly improving in my life again. You obviously are a very pretty 15 year old, so pretty in fact that I have to wonder why you are so focused on this one guy that has proven himself repeatedly to be dishonest and manipulative. I think you should set your sights higher. What is it that makes you so into him? You say that you are in love with him, but what exactly are his good qualities? You are drop dead gorgious, it looks to me that you could reel in just about any guy you want. Be more judicious, if you are going to obsess over a guy, make it a guy *worth* obsessing over. This guy is obviously just too young to settle down at all, or, if he is older, then a compulsive player who will always stay a bachelor. Either way, his dumping you is a reflection on him, not you.
Here is a question for you. How can you "still kind of am totally "BE" in love" with someone? Either you are or you aren't. I'm not saying that a person in their teens can't be in love, I suggest that Its possible you haven't lived long enough to know what true love really is. With all the problems the two of you have been through, I'd say stay away from him. There is always someone better out there,. Be honest with yourself, do you really want to be with a guy if they are going to call you names just to hurt you? Have some integrity girl! Be strong for yourself, stand up for yourself, and don't allow yourself to give this guy the second thought he obviously doesn't deserve. No good comes from a man who won't respect a woman. It's unfortunate that guy's now days don't know how to respect or treat a female. Here is another thing. It says that you are 15. What in the world are you doing even having sex at that age? And I read in another of your posts that you smoke pot? or get high? whichever the case may be You shouldn't be doing that either. But who am I to judge?
i havent had sex im a virgin 100%...and i dont smoke pot either...popped pills yea...drank alcohol yea...but then again who doesnt at my age now...just experimenting you know
Popped what kind of pills? Smoking pot wouldn't bother me, I let my little brother smoke my pot when he was 16 and I was 30. Drinking and especially popping pills I find much more alarming.
