My husband used to keep his phone on him at all times, except when it needed charging but it was always turned off then. He always used to take our dog for long walks (which he never used to do), he made up any excuse to get out of the house just so he could ring her( she lived in a different county).
Yeah like when she starts going out all night and coming home at like 5am with lame excuses like running out of gas and shit..
Oh yeah and if she's constantly online chatting, and posts new sexy pics of herself online and talking to guys on the phone all the time. Some girls just don't care they're gonna cheat cheat cheat...
Guilt. They will tell you that you're the only one they could ever want, do little things they never did before, but then they get distant and won't tell you what's on thier mind or what's going on a few days later. Lame excuses for why they never come home on time. Numbers that are unexplainable on the phone bill. Odd items purchased with the credit card. Missing money in your accounts. Some jerks will even make you feel like you're being paranoid about things and accuse you of not trusting them. (for good reason usually..)
lets say your spouse tells you this... "i found it hard not to fall into someone elses arms, but i never let it get that far" would you then be led to believe that there was someone and there was something there, but they stopped it before it went somewhere?
I think I'd be wanting to know how far it did go, and without the cryptic explanations. If he's saying this stuff to you, and you're sure he wasn't kidding, then what DID he really mean? And why is he sharing it? What does he expect to happen from him telling you that? I think I'd be asking....
I don't know your spouse, but you should be talking with them about this not here. I imgaine that if this isn't part of your problem, it will be. But yes, I would believe that they have become fond of someone else and they decided not to act on it. I guess it depends on both of your definitions of cheating though, to tell for sure. Or they could just be telling you this because the preceive that you are not paying enough attention to them and they want you to realize that it isn't that difficult for them to find someone else. (that is of course if they are prone to playing mind games, which from what little you posted that is not the case at all). Chances are your spouse has the hots for someone else, but doesn't do anything about it because of you. Happens all the time. Just because someone gets married doesn't mean they all of a sudden stop living. Sheesh.
Ok usually by the time you start thinking somethings not right that is when it is happening. The rest is just a case of digging out the facts or how much you want to look the other way. IMO. I can guarantee even if you walked up on a cheater having sex they would only be "freinds" and would argue the fact for days. Thats a huge red flag. Redirection of guilt to the one asking questions.
ok, im deployed to iraq. for a couple months i found it very difficult to keep contact back home. i just wanted to be left alone. but after time, i realized i was being a prick so i started contacting my wife again. a few weeks ago she comes at me with the things i already explained. i tried to talk to her about what she told me, but said that she was speaking figuratively. that there wasnt anyone else, she was just saying she found it hard not to leave me. i didint know what to do at the time so i told her i believed what she was saying. but still have suspicions. now im all confused, but i dont want to come right out and accuse her. but i want to know the whole truth at the same time without causing more problems. ive been in iraq for the last year and i still have 2 more months to go. pretty fucked up situation huh?
