I'm done with relationships...

I've finally gotten over my ex breaking up with me after a rather complicated relationship that, in retrospect, really wasn't all that healthy. And honestly, I'm feeling pretty damn good for the first time in awhile.

Not to say I enjoy being single. Truth be told, I hate it, but I'd rather be single and alone than have to hear the four words that can crush any guy again: "Let's just be friends". Every relationship I've been in has been rather short and ended with that phrase, and I'm just fucking sick and tired of it (even though I have stayed good friends with all my exes, and I'm very glad for that as they really are all good people).

Anyone else found themselves unwilling to be in a relationship because they're afraid of ending up hurt again? And if so, how did you handle coping with that?

 

dude, your hot and awesome. if i were single an din oregno id be hitting you, but im neither. anyway, theres nothing wrong with taking a break from dating particularly if youve had a run of bad luck (usually this is from poisonous relationships, but even just nitwits count)... just make sure it isnt permanent because you seem like a relaly aweosme perosn from what you writ eon the forums

 

Haha, thanks for the compliments. Honestly, I'm flattered!

To put things in perspective, I was single for two years until my most recent relationship. So, chances are I'm going to be single for awhile. That is of course unless I randomly meet someone where the chemistry is just right between us. That's seeming unlikely though, considering I somehow wound up at a private catholic college, haha. Not that I have anything against the people at my university, as they're all very kind and good people, but I'm afraid I only see them as friends.

Yep, I'm pretty much one of the only hippies on campus

Ah well, such is the grand adventure of Life!! Thank you for your kind words though, they really do mean a lot.

 

I went 3 years single before I met my fiance. I just needed the perspective and to let go of past baggage.

 

Sure , I went 5 years since my last girl .....then , Muddie roped and broke me !!!

 

I Do Not Think I am Done with the Breaking-in Part Yet...

 

my boyfriend usually goes a year between serious relationships (more than a date or two before going hte friends route), but he hadh to wait 2 years without a gal for me to come around. Sometimes patience results in great things. if you feel like you dont connect with people on campus the way you want to, why not join a group with like minded individiuals. ie an environmentalism group, or cyclists who avoid driving, or such?

 

Awe, all you sweet couples are enough to give us sinlges some hope. lol. I went a year without anything "serious" in my life, and now I've met someone who I love to death in just a very very short time. Am I a little afraid of getting hurt? Of course, but I'm more excited about the prospect of what could happen between us. And I have not felt this way about anyone in a long time, so I feel like I don't have a choice... haha. That's just what this guy does to me.

It'll happen when you're ready.

 

Take up coke and hookers. Or something.

 

whats your new girfriend gonna say about that? lol

 

then when all you're money is gone you're a broke, single cokehead with an std or five. thats really a bit of a step backwards in my opinion.

 

Hmm, I've had this feeling a few times, actually I have it a little now. But whenever someone feels like that I think sooner or later they become to lonely and crave some sort of companionship, who knows maybe you will find something new in someone and start a whole new relationship with someone you've actually known for a long time, it happed to me once at least . Also whenever I think that I don't want to because I'll only get hurt again I think about how eventually I'll meet a girl that will just work for me and then I feel a little better.

 

As always, thank you all for your replies! I think I'm going to do what I've always striven to do when I'm feeling unsure about something, and that is to simply take each day as it comes!

Oh yeah, I'm a member of a philosophy club at my University. There are about ten members total (including myself and faculty), and everyone is really quite interesting. Perhaps with the new year some new people will join as well!

 

haha, it would still be two steps forward for some of us

 

there will be a point at where you will have something click in yer head and say, "fuck it I'm over it" then you will be able to move on easily.....Dude, your young also, I found a couple of bed buddies and am enjoying being single, for me it's the best

Cheers

 

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