Funny, my best friend came out to her parents when she was 18, she is now 25 but still wears long pants to visit her folks so they won't see the tattoos she has had for 6 years. More scared of showing her tats than of coming out.
The parents have seen the tattoos already. LoL. My Dad is this BIG homohobe and I seriously fear he will disown me... but I do love him. I know my MoM won't care.. she actually supports gay love. I've been dating a guy since I was fourteen and he invited me to move out of state. I just want my parents to know the truth so I won't have to hide it anymore.
If you have any siblings you can trust, ask them first how your parents might take it. It may help and it may not. In the end, if you want your parents to know, even if they may not like it, you just have to straight up tell them. If your dad does blow up and throw you out of the house, at least youll have a place to go. And dont think that if he's mad about it now he'll stay that way forever. my uncle was told to leave and never come back when he came out to my grandparents 3 or so decades ago, but then later they accepted him and his lifepartner back in to the family. the fact that your mom isn't homophobic, may help the situation out as well.
well I was a coward, I told my bigsister and then she told my dad who told my mom.. Worked fine, no problem
In my case,.I've never told my family anything.They all figured it out anyways of course,..and being now they all know I can't really seem to be comfortable telling them.I would'nt feel comfortable anyways I guess,and I dread having to make a kinda big announcement about it,..eventhough there's a good family friend who is gay and my family is cool with it now,.(they were'nt at first),.When it comes to me I get so self-concious about it.And I don't want to be labeled or recognized as "Oh that's the queer of the family",..I want to be seen as me,and I'm much more than just a Bi-sexual and I'm afraid to say anything about it at this time ,perhaps someday I will.I've had a hard enough time accepting it myself.So even at this age I still have'nt formally said anything.*Laughs.I'm in no hurry to anyways,before I say anything I want to have a better relationship with my family,.and it's always been very rocky,..although it has been getting better for awhile.Guess I don't want to throw that wrench in the works yet although at times I don't think it would be a bad idea and might bring us closer.It's a comfort to know though,.looking at there reaction to our friend who came out,.They're not gonna freak out,.I know everyone will be cool with it,..They have even brought up the subject once,..in hopes to get me to tell them,,.but I still hold out.It's really all about an When I'm ready,kinda thing.And I really don't want to discuss it with them,I'm still really angry about them trying to make me be something I was'nt most of my life.I'm slowly losing the anger as I slowly get closer to them,but its gonna take awhile.*laughs,.My life story,..I guess it's been bothering me lately and I needed to get that out.I know that probably does'nt help much,..but being on the subject,I just needed to say all that.Can anyone make any sense of all that??LOL,....Sorry for the Biography,.. Thanks,..Joey*
Stop being a baby and just do it!!! Why do u care if ur dad disowns u. I came out to my parents and siblings all at once. I just brought a guy home and introduced him as my boyfriend, lol.
Im bi, and only one person knows, a good friend of mine who is also bi lol, he came out to me, so I returned to favour. Thing is, Im not planning to say anything to my family until im alot older, because feelings change, preferances change, I dont like the idea that people are born certian ways. In your case however, the fact your in a long term relationship makes it harder, I would say you need to tell them, but just make sure they know its your choice, your happy this way, and your the same person you have always been.
