How much benefit can a relationship have on your lifestyle? If you marry someone with a really exciting life is it likely to make your life exciting as well?
typicaly the opposite is true, the lessthen exciting partner cant deal with the exciting ones exciting lifestyle so demandsz they stay home morte often & stop hanging with those wild freinds this can often end in divorce when the 1 with the life is unwilling to give up the lifestyle thats important to them
Brother Eagle is so right......its unusual to find an easy blend where the less than exciting partner is able to change into someone else for the wilder partner....
I would say that it depends on how open you are to change and new experiences. If you are open to the idea of trying new things then sure, your life could be further enriched by someone who leads a life of excitement. But if you are essentially a homebody at heart then it may lead to conflict. I think it's a bit of a 'how long's a piece of string' kind of question where there is no fixed answer. It is possible that you might meet someone who is able to mix in circles that you previously have been unable to, for financial reasons or otherwise, so in that sense the relationship could definitely open some doors for you and broaden your horizons. Meeting someone who travels a lot for example, or even who lives in another country and you end up moving out with them.
Thanks for your input. The reason I asked is because i had a friendship with a woman who had an exciting lifestyle - liked going to lots of parties and meeting new people. I wimped out of having a relationship with her and regretted it ever since and wondered what I missed out on. And I have to try and convince myself we might have been incompatible since she said I could have married her. I am a shy introverted person. Main problem I have though is that she said she always went out with shy men in the past, which suggests the shy men were ok with her lifestyle.
Dgg - they say that opposites attract - each party's strengths can compliment the other's weaknesses, and vice versa. If you are shy, and she is outgoing, she will help get you out of your shell, and your cautious nature may prevent her from making mistakes or being overly exuberant or uncaring about others' feelings. If she loves to travel, and you don't, perhaps you can both reach a happy medium - try a home exchange to a foreign land (if you have a home). I have done two to Europe with my girlfriend, and we settled into my exchange partners' life styles, as they settled into mine at the same time.
Yes I think you are right and that's why we were attracted and why it is so sad the relationship didn't grow. But I am looking for ways to resolve my regret at missing out with her. In that sense, I am more interested in looking at the disadvantages of being in a relationship with an opposite. Sounds like you are a shy person in a relationship with an outgoing person, Cutted.
