How can i tell them im gay?

Well I've decided I will be telling my mother and sister sometime during September or towards the end of it (possibly when my 3rd set of school holidays start). I would of came out sooner but too much was/is going on in the family, so hopefully things should settle down by september. If not, I'm still going to come out around then, before my last set of exams start. I'm just anxious to tell them, and i suppose i want to be prepared with how to tell them.

But before I tell them, I want to at least have some idea how to bring the conversation up, because i'm not too sure how I will bring it up to them at this moment. I want to have some sort of idea how to bring up the conversation myself, then tell them about myself. I don't want to surprise them too much by coming out of the blue and just be all like;
"hey i got a secret"
"what is it"
"I'M GAY"

Please have a suggestion other than "just wait for something involving 'gays' to be talked about in the media" i don't want rely on waiting all that time just for it to come in the news, then say "oh yeah, that reminds me, I'm gay too."

Any help/suggestions/advice or even your own experiences would be greatly appreciated

ps: i won't be telling them at the same time. i'll tell them seperately and privately

 

I'm not sure how often your mum and sister bug you about girls, but I think that that's the perfect opportunity. If your mum one day says something like "It's fine to have a girlfriend if you want," or "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO GET A GIRLFRIEND LOLOLOL!?!?!?" then I think you should take the opportunity to tell them you're not actually into girls. It's far easier to get the whole gay thing across through implication than through direct communication. Saying "I'm gay" is actually pretty hard - especially to one's family members.

To get the whole girl thing going - maybe you could tell your mum you met this really nice "person" at school and when she asks about that person, say that she is a girl. Your mum might get the idea that this girl to you is more than a friend, which she then might ask you about and then you can then tell her the truth.

Hope it helps

 

That's what my mom is like. Whenever I tell her I'm going to hang out with a friend of mine that happens to be a girl, she's like "OMGOMFGLOLROFLLMAOLMFAOGTFOSTFUWTFBBQKTHXBIE!!!!!!exclamation!!!!11!!eleven!!!!one hundred eleven!!!11!!!!!1!!!1!!!1!6! Is it a date????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????"

She flips out every single time I mention a girl. It gets so, so old. I'm bi, but I want a boyfriend right now. If a girl I liked asked me out I'd say yes, but if I have to make the first move it will probably be on a guy.

 

old post but sorry um i always thought the best way to come out to some one was to start off asking the oppinion on gay rights or something you can normaly judge how there going to react to the news you give them by there answer but if its a parent the best way is to be truthfull and up front about it chances are they already know i mean my mom knew so there is in your case a small chance they already know just be up front and honest about it

 

wow... the whole girl talking thing, always happens with my Mum. Mum says stuff like "soon you'll be bringing girls over, partying and one day married to a wonderful girl". Mum and her friend are spiritual (like myself) and they both got readings and images of a girl, who they believe will be "my future wife". I just usually laugh it off quietly. Never really thought of correcting her though, great idea .

As for what you said Wim, I dont believe that they have any idea I'm gay, unless they're trying to live in a fantasy world (which is unlikely). But I do know they shouldn't react badly. Mum will feel sorry and start apologizing for talking about girls and not being able to help me through the struggle, and my sister would be like "woah wtf...haha, awesome, I have a gay brother."

But yeah i guess i'll be upfront and bring the convo up like how *Andy*/Daniel said.

Didn't think I'd have a solution for my mum so quick lol. but any more ideas would still be great, I don't really know a way to tell my sister yet.

 

Okay, heres the thing. I don't know how my sister will react if i told her now, i don't think she'd act so light-heartedly though because the way she is acting recently, due to she got engaged with her boyfriend recently.

To be honest, my sister can get quite self-centered. In fact, for the past few months, everything has been about her (career, 21st, massive holiday, engagement), don't get me wrong, I am happy for her, and I love her dearly. But she's enjoying all the spotlight and I don't think she'd like it too much if i stole a glimpse of it, but no way am i staying in the closet for another year and a half. So i guess i need some idea to ease it in, and let her know that i'm not seeking attention.

 

Glad you liked the idea ShadowShifta

As for what Wim said - unfortunately, knowing that whoever you want to come out to wont react badly doesn't always make things any easier. I know that my mum and dad would be perfectly fine with it, but telling them will still be super hard. I dont know why really, but it just is one of those awkward things. And my mum probably has no idea that I am gay because like Shadow Shifta and CrazybutLazy, my mum will sometimes bring up the whole girl thing with me.

And Crazy - what you said was pretty funny actually. I always hang out with these girls who go to my school and my parents keep asking if they're "more than friends". Once when I got into the car after seeing a movie at a mall, my friends were nearby and my dad saw them and asked "So are those your GIRLFRIENDS?" And I was like "WtF?! I'm not a pimp!" Pretty funny, but awkward at the same time..