How do you get over a crush?

I'm looking for anything really that can help me get over a crush i've developed over another guy.

He was my old next door neighbour until i moved, but i hardly ever spoke to him at that time. As i was exploring more with my sexuality and after i moved house, he was all i could think about. I still do think of him now and even though i haven't had any contact what so ever with him for almost 2 years. It's driving me insane. I think of him constantly everyday, and i look out for him when i'm out of the house. Not to mention, he is often the one i fantasize about when i masturbate.

Now that i've come to realise this, i'm labelling it more of an obsession, and i know the chances of me seeing him again are incredibly slim and the chances of him being gay/bi are even more less likely. So i really want to make my feelings towards him less intense and move on, it feels as if i'm saving myself for him or working myself up to a disaster.

 

Time and or another guy.

 

heyy,
i just read u forum onthe guy u have a crush on, its like we're sharing the same life because everything u said is EXACTLY what im goin through. except with a girl. i worked with her almost 2 yrs ago i started to have a thing for her then but i didnt think much of it at first, but i quit that job after three months of workin there (for personal reasons ) but then she was on my mind 24/7 n still is i havent talked to her since i worked with her n im always lookin for her whenever i leave the house, i know i have no chance with her... but i keep thinking maybe someday,,, i know she has a bf but i dunno if maybe she is bi or could be gay i have no idea i think its highly unlikely that she is.... but i keep tryin to get over her but i dunno how...i just thought id share that with u, to let u know ur not the only one out there goin through wat ur goin through

 

i know what your both going threw very well really i grew up in cali and my best friend from the time i was 5 was always around tho we stayed freinds i always wondered if he felt the same way about me that i did for him the sad truth is i moved to kansas when i was 16 and i know i'll never see him again (*sigh* even more so now) there are times where are wished i told him that he was the only person i ever truely loved in the sense of the word it took me 7 years 3 months and 6 days to get over him mainly because ontop of the fact that i liked him i also got used to seeing him ever day so in point as it took me that long to get over him i finaly did so by constantly challangeing my mind in school sports and puzzles anything that will take you away from every day life is normaly a very good choice to get over a crush and on a side note women are more open minded then men and will try anything at least once you never know how some one will react to a kiss or a long held hugs its reactions that are shown and the actions taken that make life risky but also make things all the more worth trying aslo latest poll says 78% of the women asked of ther sexual orientation stated they were bi tho im not helping things any more sorry for babbleing and peace love and well being all *Huggs* ^^

 

I had sex with my friend (really my 1st)when I was13,after that I never saw him again socially,I saw him in school for the rest of the year but he got freaked after the sex and did'nt want to hang no more.I was madly in love with this guy and he was all I thought about.It's been many moons (A real long time)since and I still think/fantasise about him sometimes.I thought about him all the time just like everyone had described.It's my opinion that you never get over it just the pain of not having them slowly fades as you get used to the fact their gone from your life.It hurts for sure!I really liked what Wim said,try to keep busy doing things sports,music,bowling anything so you don't think about him all the time.do other things and try to enjoy those things.it will slowly fade and you won't feel like you're going insane.There's no magic pill just lots of time living life (trying to enjoy it)without him,and finding someone new always helps.I'd go do something a little crazy and have some fun and laughs,eventhough it hurts you'll feel better,If you can talk about it with someone you trust I'd do that too.
Hang in there,
Can't always get what you want..
but maybe what you do get is better.
Keep on,Keeping on! All the best, *yeoj joey*

 

thanks for all the advice

It seems like that feeling that you're insane because of your feelings over someone that you haven't seen in ages, is normal.

But yeah, guess i need to preoccupy myself somemore, other than masturbation over him lol. perhaps i should stop that too.

 

Yeah - give it time and find another guy. Maybe even try to find someone to talk to on these forums. I know that feeling of frustration where you really really like someone but just can't get at them because they either live far away or because they aren't gay. I'm sure you'll meet someone great soon