Am I Pathetic?

Sorry don't mind what I put here I was really upset

 

I am sorry to drag this on but I really tried to stop playing with my self and it really didn't work to well... I went like a day and a half befor I had to again... I still can't ask a girl out... I even tried that online site to find a girl to just talk to ... I can't even do that... I suck at life (if this is the wrong forum top list I would like to move it to one where I may get more help)

 

Well, my input, for whatever it's worth, is this. It may be that your consciousness of your being SO horny makes it difficult for you to strike up conversations with girls because they are so often identified as being the objects of your sexual fantasy. Not that you view them as objects, necessarily, but that since you feel so bad about you much you masturbate, and think about girls in sexual terms while you masturbate; it makes it especially hard for you to approach a girl withou all that shame. You need to get over your guilt about this, somehow, and remember they're just human beings like you, and besides, they don't know what thoughts you had the night before. Accept that you masturbate. Just leave it behind when you're done with it. Enjoy it, and move on.

 

That's really good advice ... I wish it were as easy as that. I mean I have gotten really bad with trying to stop playing with my self but it made it worse ...(don't get me wrong I do it mainly for the enjoyment) Now every time I am pretty much alone I do it as much as possible(multiple times )... And I guess your right about the shame part I trun really red around women... I mean it must be subcosious "guilt" cause I don't feel bad about doing it.I would also just like to restate I don't wanna seem like a total perv(though I maybe in many ways) I can't even get to the point of a normal relationship, or pretty much contact with the oposite sex...

 

Dude don't freak. It's not atypical for a guy to not have a girlfriend and vice versa. It happens more often then not. Certain people like to stigmatize those who are still virgins or without a special someone. Take it from me: a guy who is 24, never had a serious gf in his life and the only time I came close to anything was making out with the girl my grandmother babysat way back when we were five. BELIEVE ME!!! I know how hard it is to talk to a girl. It petrified me until one day I told myself," there's no reason to be afraid!!" Go with some gusto and start talking!!! But plan it in your head first so you don't sound foolish. I did that and got the interest of a pretty hot chick, too. No worries, man. Everyone's life is different. In the grand scheme of things, it could be a whole lot worse.

 

dont worry. I was always horny 24/7 before i ever had sex and i still am. I lost my virginity at 16 and didnt know what to do at first because i never had a boyfriend and never had sex before but i just watched pornos a lot and basically learned from that. I didnt even get my boyfriend until i was almost 17. And now that i have a boyfriend im still horny all the time but he gives me anough pleasure for the day. Start talking to girls even if you dont know how. Just start a conversation with someone by talking about anything. Eventually you will lose your virginity and find someone who likes you.

 

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Shy guy - you are not alone. Many guys are shy, and everyone masturbates, even married guys. It is a normal and necessary human experience. Just take stock of what you have at 19 - are you tall, short, thin, athletic, fat, pimples, smart, dumb, ethnicity a problem for you in your environment? Focus on your strong points, and seek out girls who seem attracted to you in social situations. Talk to girls, listen to what they have to say, take interest in them. Join social clubs which have girls, and you can get to know them while pursuing common goals. Really, it is not that hard.

PM me if you want to talk privately. I have helped a lot of young men work through personal problems.

 

Man, don't worry too much. Its very easy to forget about the positives and focus on the negatives. There are people here who are willing to help you out, and from the way things appear, no one is judgmental, so that's really great.

Concentrate on all the things that you have going for yourself, they may not seem like much, but you'll be surprised once you learn to focus