end of the road for me

so i ended up in the emergency room wednesday night with spotting and sharp pains...shockingly mt baby died 5 weeks ago and no one bothered to tell me...i just expected it....another miscarriage, and no one will help me until my third in a row...this is fucking ridiculous..

 

i'm so sorry, momma....i don't know what to say, but just know that you are in my thoughts....

 

I'm so sorry, I'm confused though, your ticker had said you were only like 6 weeks along. How could your baby have died 5 weeks ago? What do you mean they didn't tell you? And if you lost the baby so long ago, why were you bleeding last week? Sorry, it just seems like something is strange there.

Hang in there, I hope you get some help soon. Has anyone offered any insight into what is happening? You are in my thoughts, I hope it all works out soon.

 

oh im so sorry, im really sad to hear that
please dont give up though! you really havnt been trying for very long. these things happen all the time and i just know you will have a baby when the time is right. these last two just wernt meant to be.

 

*hugs*
That is so sad. Hope that third time is the charm for you, and that you can get the help & suppourt you need.

 

i had a very very slight bleed on wednesday....and the baby had been dead for 5 weeks and i never passed it..a missed miscarriage...also the doctor lied to me when i went into the emergency room and said everything was ok and it wasnt
and weve been trying for a year and half with 2 miscarriages....yeah, id say wed been trying too fucking long

 

I just attended the lovely home waterbirth of a lady who had 4 miscarriages over a 2 year period before carrying this healthy, robust 8 pound boy to term.


50 years ago, you would not have even known you were pregnant, you'd have suspected, but you would not have confirmed it until you missed at least 2 periods. A miscarriage was not thought of as anything but a late period. A very large percentage of pregnancies end in early miscarriage, it's very common and does not mean there's a permanent, life-long problem. We are able to find out we're pregnant way too early, and hence we suffer the pain of early miscarriage way too often. I'm not, in any way, trying to minimize your pain. I know how badly you want a baby, and I know you have gotten attached to what you thought was a baby growing inside you.

Your body is working perfectly, by not allowing a less-than perfect embryo to develop. Your body has not betrayed you, and there is no reason why you should think you won't have a perfect, lovely baby one day.

Give yourself some love, and a break.

 

I agree. My mom and my sister have miscarages before the carried to term. Trying for a year or even 2 years isn't a long time. Just give yourself a break.

 

...im only 15, soo my opinion might not be as important as the others, but trust me when i say, things will turn around; you just gotta keep looking up.

 

im sick of greiving, im sick of being spit in the face and having everything taken away from me...maybe im just not meant to be a parent..maybe id be a horrible parent....

 

Don't say that! you can't just give up! keep up hope, it's the only way of carrying on!~Danni

 

I'm sorry for your lost. <hugs> I'm no doctor, but I would wait about a year for your body to heal so that you can have a healthy pregnancy in the future. May be your body wasn't healed enough from your other miscarriage. You are only 23, so a year isn't too long even though it may seem that way. I'm only a year younger than you and I am not even close to being ready to be a mama. Chin up and keep a smile on your face. Sadness and depression just makes it worse.

there are a lot of children who need parents. adoption is just as great. some children would never have a loving family if it wasn't for adoption. I plan on adopting in my life time. I just wish people would view adoption the same as having your own biological children. A friend of mine is adopting a little girl. If it wasn't for her caring open arms, then the baby would be with a heroin addict.

 

a year is an eternity whren youve been waqiting 3 already

 

ok I am not sure if this will make any sense to you, but I was watching discovery health, "Special Deliveries" and there was this mama who had several miscarriages. Her doctor told her that the reason as to why this kept happening to her was due to a blood clotting disorder. It's when your blood over clots, leaving very little blood to circulate through the fetus, so the fetus can not survive. The doctor said that half the time women with this condition have very little signs of a miscarriage. I'm not experienced by any means, but may be you should consider bringing this up to your doctor or researching about it. A lot of women don't even know they have this condition until they become pregnant. I wish I caught the name of the condition.

<hugs>

 

Here's another forum that was talking about clotting disorders:

http://www.sharedjourney.com/yabbse/blood_clotting_disorders_amp_pregnancy-4-1-26-0.html

 

That is so awful. I'm so sorry! Don't lose hope, I hope you get a baby soon.

 

its hard not to lose hope when you keep getting slapped in the face and told ,oh your chances of ever carrying a child to term is now only 60%....i hurt so bad i cant even leave my house, i havent been to work in a week, and im going in today to let them scrape my baby out which im totally against, but my mother is making me....im sure ill be homeless before long for the fact that the stupid doctor wont let me work...i hate life right now so much

 

i wish it was that easy....see, here in oregon id be living in so,me low income run down piece of crap.....id rather not. not to mention my husband is very against living on one income, he finds it unfair