Married Man is not what he seems

Hi everyone i am new here.
I have found myself attracted to men since about the age of 28. I think it started a long time before that but I realised what was going on then.
Now adays, I am married to a wonderful woman who is more of my best friend than she is my wife. I do not ever want to hurt her. Coming out almost does not seem an option because the life we have built and everything else.
I am interested in everyones thoughts on this. Yes, we do have young children. I want to be responsible, and do not want to have affairs but these fantasies wont stop.
Any help is appreciated.


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All you can do is be honest; if you prolong the lie, the deeper the blow will be to your wife. Don't worry about the kids; they won't quite understand until thy are older, and then you can explain it.

 

Ok heres what i've got to ask:

Do you still find yourself attracted to your wife? or still find women sexually attractive?

What attractions do you have to men (physical/emotional)? and what are the fantasies you're having?

And could you picture yourself in a relationship with another man or not?

You don't have to answer them, but it just helps out with finding more about your feelings and then making a decision.

 

It is a hard blow no mater when you tell her but it is always best to tell her my uncle tryed to commit suicide before my aunt found out and then he dident even tell her it was his sister so my opinion is to tell her know before things get prolonged any longer and Shadow is right with his questions dont answer them aloud but let the answers stew in your mind till your positive as for your children they wont understand yet but when they can understand it you should explain it to them too

 

Thank you for the great advice,
I have let those questions toss around in my mind, and will continue to do so.
I set a dinner date with her and told her we needed to talk.

 

When is the dinner?

 

Did you tell her?how did it go?What happened?ok ok ok lol I know too too many questions but I just read this thread and wanted to know if it worked out for you ,You know I had been thinking about telling the girl I'm seeing and I found out she was bi and of course told her and that was a situation that worked out for the best we accept each other perfect.The only wrench in the works is she's also seeing someone else,@ least I know and I have a choice whether to stay and I do and the other guy knows about me too.The good thing is I feel ok about looking for someone else.Always some good always some bad,don't make it worse holding on to a secret espicially since it seems to be a pretty big issue @ the moment,you gotta work it out!Don't you think?So I'd strongly agree with telling her,I would'nt think the fantasies are gonna poof* vanish,better to clear the air and begin to evaluate your situation.Looking for answers to the ?'s asked earlier should help to bring some clarity.Honesty is not a garuntee everythings gonna work out but at least your concience can rest well.You could always be pleasently surprised as well.Never know.