How to turn a guy on and spice things up

My boyfriend and I have always had a great sex life, until about 2 months ago. It went from every 2 or 3 days to maybe once a week. His schedule has been really crazy lately, and says he's tired and just not in the mood, but I miss the sex and intimacy. I don't have a lot of experience at turning a guy on because i've never needed to. He's always had a high sex drive and I also have a high sex drive.

I want to try different things and positions and he doens't seem very intrested. He just asks if i'm getting bored with what we do. It's not that i'm bored I would just like to try something kinky. Can anyone give me some advice on how to turn him on and get him to try something different once in a while?

 

He is tired. Believe him when he says that.

1) Plan your kinky sex for some time 24hr after he last worked.

Put toys/tools (vibrator, 4ft. clothsline, feather, necktie, etc.) one on each of stairs and let him pick.

Or a different technique, with or without toys:
Get a egg timer. (2-3min) and play a game. One person does what the other says (and nothing else) until the timer runs out. Switch roles. Switch back. If you start clothed, you can explore what you think of as "Kinky" when you are in charge and learn what interests him when he is in charge.

Most importantly, he is tired. He means it. He doesn't think you're ugly, he's just tired.

 

agreed about the tired part & quite creative on those ideas..lol but might not do it for me
however if you were to do the eggtimer thing (id set it for 5-10 min even) i'd further switch it up from doing what the other says to doing anything you want
so your each not only learning what the other would like you to do, but what youd each like to do to the other

 

Women tend to take this kind of thing hard... I can sympathize.

 

find ways to make his home life less stressful and his libido will pick up a little bit more. stress kills libido for a lot of epople. create a more mellow, romantic mood ie candles, lights off or down, soft music, massage before becoming intimate, etc.

 

stop initiating it...he'll start wanting it again real fast

 

I don't initiate it because i'm not really sure what I should do to try and initiate things. I don't know what things turn guys on.

 

This is a great story. Normally in most cases it's not the man who doesnt want the sex anymore. As a man myself I know that after a few days I start hurting for sex. The longer I go the worse it gets to the point I will do anything to get it. Luckily im married so I don't have to go very far.

If she is in the mood and Im not she will start doing small things to temp me. Men are visual creators so the glimpse of a naked women will play in the sub-consious. All you have to do is show a little boob here and there. Try drying off real sexy like when you get out of the shower (make sure he's in the room). Lift your skirt and ask if these panties are too small. The more you plant that seed of sex in his mind it will begin to grow and grow. If he is real tired you might want to start early in the day with the mind tricks.

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