What do you do?

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by Jemima Truffles, Aug 30, 2007.

  1. Jemima Truffles

    Jemima Truffles Member

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    What do you do when you go through those periods where everything seems to be going a million miles an hour? You know like you have heaps of school work to do, your best friend is in jail, they guy you were seeing was seduced by and slept with a good friend of yours and now wants back into your life, another friend keeps trying to kill themselves......just an example of things that might be happening in peoples lives.....so how do you cope with these times in your life? What strategies do you use to slow things down and bring back a sense of normality to your life?
     
  2. lovelyxmalia

    lovelyxmalia Banana Hammock Lifetime Supporter

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    STOP!

    That's all I can say. When i'm going nuts, my boyfriend always brings me back to reality by taking me out for a walk or something-just to stop everything.

    I suggest writing. I keep a journal and it helps a bunch
     
  3. mamaKCita

    mamaKCita fucking stupid.

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    do the next thing in front of you to do, until you've finally taken care of everything. i'd take care of financials and school first, amazingly, those really ARE the things that stick with you the longest. i'd also get new friends. i never could put up with other people stupidity for long.
     
  4. Radiation

    Radiation Ruling the Nation

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    1) blow off the schoolwork
    2) leave your friend to rot in jail
    3) get back together with the ex-boyfriend
    4) cut all ties (if you haven't already) with the good friend who seduced your helpless ex-boyfriend
    5) don't worry about the suicidal friend since it's probably just a cry for help and if they were really wanted to commit suicide they probably would have done it by now.

    hope this helps
     
  5. Detox

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    I play video games. destroy religions and eat babies. thats the usual for me.

    more on the video games part though.

    thats were i let off all my steam.
     
  6. shaggie

    shaggie Senior Member

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    I listen to Cannonball Adderley's 'Mercy Mercy Mercy'. :)

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  7. Jemima Truffles

    Jemima Truffles Member

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    1) blow off the schoolwork - not going to happen...done way too much work to let it fall to the side now.
    2) leave your friend to rot in jail - I feel like its kind of my fault that he is there.
    3) get back together with the ex-boyfriend - we are friends.....
    4) cut all ties (if you haven't already) with the good friend who seduced your helpless ex-boyfriend - no chance of my talking to that bitch anytime soon!
    5) don't worry about the suicidal friend since it's probably just a cry for help and if they were really wanted to commit suicide they probably would have done it by now. - he has done it, I just happened to be in the right place at exactly the right time and was ale to stop him doing too much damage.
     
  8. Willow_Jon

    Willow_Jon Banned

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    You stop....take a slow...deep breath....calm yerself a moment...THEn....do ONE thing at a TIME......if you dont get it all solved or done that day....NO BIG DEAL.....tell yerself all will be well.....

    your only human...you CANt DO it ALL !!!!!
     
  9. themnax

    themnax Senior Member

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    what i do is live without damd near whatever it takes to have to live without, to avoid getting into those kinds of situations in the first place. that may be why all i've got to my name is this computer and have ended up having to live with someone in order to get by, which it is never in my nature to be comfortable with doing. but others can call me 'lazy' or sneer at my lack of austentation and not being motivated by it. but it's damd well worth it and more then worth to me. what i AM motivated by is the kind of world we all have to live in.

    how much anyone does or doesn't is entirely beside the point, what matters is the degree of positiveness of the net resault of doing so.

    and beating yourself over the head over past mistakes only distracts you from paying attention and avoiding future ones. just think about what you're doing, not by some arbitrary rote, but according to how you've observed things to actually work.

    that's what our species has brains for. however we may or may not have aquired them.

    my avoidance of being overly social is only partially motivated by my finding gratification eleswhere, in creating and exploring, but in even greater measure by wanting to avoid causing suffering, even inadvertently, to others.

    what anyone thinks of me, is their problem. how much suffering i can avoid causing, that's the part that's up to me and that i believe in taking more seriously then anything else in all of existence.

    =^^=
    .../\...
     
  10. LetLovinTakeHold

    LetLovinTakeHold Cuz it will if you let it

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    Some good herb allways puts me back on track. That and music. No matter whats going on in life, if I put on some good tunes or pick up the guitar and jam......everything around me fades away as I slip into the "zone". Even short bursts of "tuning out" helps me out a LOT
     
  11. Allonym

    Allonym cheesecake slut

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    get help. someone to help you, to back you up. to help watch the suicidal friend. someone you can vent to about your problems, a safe person to be with and talk to. i find i can deal with damned near anything as long as someones there to help me if i need it, if someone will listen to me talk it out
     
  12. Tree-Hugger

    Tree-Hugger The Chainsaw

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    I make a pot of coffee and get started on the school work. Around midterm and finals sleep is never an option. I've had several friends in and out of jail...I laugh at them and move on....when they get out I make time for them. Ummm I don't date because I don't have time for relationship drama. Plus people annoy the hell out of me. After all of the craziness I buy myself a book, I draw, and I sleep.
     
  13. Jemima Truffles

    Jemima Truffles Member

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    Thanks for the advice guys.....I just needed to have a little whinge I think...get it off my chest.

    I don't like to burden my friends with these things because they have enough problems of their own! But thanks for taking the time to listen!
     
  14. Kinky Ramona

    Kinky Ramona Back by popular demand!

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    Seems like your friends are burdening you plenty themselves. If they can't help you out a little in your time of stress, then fuck them. They're not worth it anyway.
     
  15. Jemima Truffles

    Jemima Truffles Member

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    Oh its not that they wouldn't listen to me....I just don't like to burden people with my problems is all.
     
  16. LetLovinTakeHold

    LetLovinTakeHold Cuz it will if you let it

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    That is what friends are for luv. Well one one of the things friends are for.
     
  17. Jemima Truffles

    Jemima Truffles Member

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    What are the other things?? lol

    I don't know why, but that sounded dirty for some reason? Maybe its just cos I am extrememly sexually frustrated?

    Yeah I know, I know I should talk to people, but I am too paranoid and hate people knowing too much about me, also I hate people thinking I am vunerable.
     
  18. mamaKCita

    mamaKCita fucking stupid.

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    welcome to the hipforums. that's pretty much our M.O.
     
  19. jerry420

    jerry420 Doctor of everything Lifetime Supporter

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    when everything is going a million miles a minute for me and i want it to stop...i put down the cocaine needle...
     
  20. Jemima Truffles

    Jemima Truffles Member

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    yeah, I've been clean for like 4 months now, so thats one less thing to worry about!
     

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