We all know there are relationships where a couple fall in love and get married but it doesn't work out and they divorce. I also believe there are relationships where the couple are not in love but happy living together. So how important is love? I think the main thing is to be loving and caring towards each other and love only lasts for about 7 years usually any way.
To me Love is the most important factor and it is the foundation of every relationship BUT there must be other factors present to make the whole relationship work. To me even if it's 7 yrs or 17 yrs, if i really love that person, my love will be undying love. But my love alone is not enuff to make the relationship work. My patner has to reciprocate the same love and then only will the whole relationship be strong.
If love only lasts seven years, how long before you can move on? I only ask because I know a bit of your background and what your line of thinking is like right now... Love, I think, can be extremely important. And I think it should be one of the main things in a relationship. But I think that you can love people and not end up with them, and you can be happy with people you don't love. However, it's up to each person what they choose to settle for in thier life. And I choose to keep searching until I feel I've found my one true love.
That was cute my friend. I disagree here. The base to any relationship should be commitment! And through commitment, should grow love. Think about those who were married for 50 years now, don't you think there have been times where they've fallen out of love, or there's been u and downs. Do they just take off and leave because they are not in love anymore? No, it's not about finding someone compatible for you. It's about MAKING yourself compatible and working things out with the other person. Through all this, should grow love, and with these two elements mixed together; the result should be amazing.
I think you develop a deeper love when you are with somone a long time and not every couple falls out of love. I do think it is important that both people are compatible and willing to compromise. One of the things I love about my fiance is that he compromises. We are moving to a place that is half way between both of our work and he is taking on a longer commute and more rent so I will have a shorter commute and best of all he shaved his moustache. I soooo appreciated it and it make me want to compromise when normally I hate compromising. So I think compromising is what holds marraiges together. Also, working out all of the kinks before you get married. I know that I will not take that walk down the aisle until I can make sure that all the little things get fixed...because the little things add up so fast. But most of all being best friends and we really are best friends.
While I "love" my husband I find it more important to like who he is as an individual and who I am with him. I have had the toxic "but I love him" relationship and hated who he was and who I was while we were together. Meaning he was a jerk and I turned into a banshee. Yeah, toxic. So, I learned (from past relationship) that liking my husband is more important than loving him. I don't stay married because "I love him" but because he is a great friend, lover, funny, compassionate, patient, tender, father and husband, and I really like that about him. As for me, he makes me want to be wonderful for him. It's hard to put it into words so I hope that wasn't too confusing.
