Alright so basically here`s my story. I`m now in college, 17 years old , ex-football jock, 6 foot 2, muscular and not that bad looking and gay(or bi but definitly more oriented to men). Problem is, theres this really hot kid in one of my classes, yeah he`s gay i can definitly tell, and so can everyone in that class, and damn ive never been atracted to anyone like that before..so first of all never talked to him, dont know his name, dont know how to approach him, and my friends are all straight and he hangs out with another gay kid(or he looks like it) and too other not that attractive girls. alright so the question is what do I do?..advise? thoughts? ps: yeah i know i sound like a stalker and stuff but this has truley never happened to me before and neither did i think it would...
i Think You should just approach him without any doubt. whats the worst that could happen? its not like he'll talk to you anyless than he does now.
yeah man go for it. the worst thing to do is to do nothing and wonder what might have been for the rest of your years. honestly theres not much to lose.
Talk to him! If you're sure he's gay then its great It's far worse not being sure if the guy is gay or not. And I'm assuming that you're not out?
thanks for replys everyone, already helping me out so much, yeah im not out, and if i did it would be a shock to so many people, and yeah id loose most or all of my friends and stuff. Thing is i wouldnt know what to say to him when i`d go up to him...the only place where i pretty much see him is in this small classroom and what makes it harder is that my friends are in that same classroom...theyll probably say wtf are u doing talking that fag or watever.
Find out if he's interested in something you're interested in and ask him about it. When I once liked this guy at my school, I found out he was in this science thing with me and although I knew he was, I pretended I didn't and asked if he was part of it. From there we just got talking. Even though I'm totally over him now, we've spoken to each other quite a bit since then (in a friendly way )
I always say, one of the blessings of being gay (or GLBT) is that you find out who your real friends are. If they really are your friends they will look beyond their petty bigotry. Just as you must do for your self. You will be more content once you come out with your feelings, and your friends will learn something about themselves. But I can't advocate that you come out, only you will know when and why the right time happens. I could have been the queer boy with the fag hag girlfriends in your class. I was like that kid. But when the "x-jock" approached me, it scared the hell out of me. Because he lied to me. He said "I'm not gay." I mean, I understand that he was struggling with his identity and sexuality, but it didn't make me feel secure. I was used to jocks trying to beat the shit out of me. He approached me, that we should get together, and we did. But if he had been honest about how he was feeling, I would have been his friend, because I liked him. If he had said that he was questioning, I would have been relaxed. Say hi to the kid. Ask him out to coffee, because there's something you'd like to ask him -privately. Fuck the detractors. Oh, and what do you ask him? "Were you born beautiful, or do you have to work at it like the rest of us?"
