girls-how long does it take you to fall for a guy?

simple. How long does it take you to say "hey, i can imagine myself being together with this guy for a while" ? Im trying to think what is the best time to pursue a girl for a relationship. Im sure everyone has different opinions, but like if you met a guy ONE time and things were awesome, hes toally nice, cool, good looking, etc. And the chemistry is there.....when is a good time to take things further? And what are some of the signs girls make if they want to take a relationship/friendship further?

 

There's really no time limit. Sometimes a guy will play it safe and get to know me better before asking me out. Other times they will ask me out just minutes after meeting them. I would personally rather leap right into a romantic relationship than to try and make the jump from friends to dating.

PS I've only experienced "love at first sight" once. And I ended up making a fool of myself.

 

There have only been a couple of guys who have totally swept me away from the beginning, and one of them is the guy I am talking to now. The other was in my life for about 9 months, and we were friends before getting together.

I think it generally takes a few weeks to actually say, "I could see myself with this person for a long time (or forever)." But I've seen people have a weekend love affair, and then move in with one another on Monday.

It's all about the individual.

Signs... I'm pretty dang blunt. I'll be out with it, whether that means I get hurt or what. I tell it like it is.

 

There is such a thing as "love at first sight". I met my late wife that way, at a party at my beach house in San Clemente, CA years ago.

But usually your first meeting is one where you each go over your mental checklist of what you are looking for in a man or woman, and if the person passes muster, you move to the next step, and get to know the person better. At some point, you will have sex, all at once or in stages, and that is a very important part of building a relationship.

All relationships have these stages:
1. Infatuation
2. Finding his or her faults
3. Reconciling those faults, or breaking up
4. Developing a long term relationship, if you have come to terms with his or her faults (we all have them)

 

I takes me a while to actually see myslef with someone. When i first met my boyfriend i thought it was going to be a one night stand but then he called me back the next day and i realized that this guy actually likes me so i figured i would hang out with him and see how it goes. I thought he was hot, cool, intelligent, funny, etc. and i had a strong connection with him right away. He asked me if i was in a relationship and i said no. Then he asked if i would like to be in one and i said that i would like that. After that we kept hanging out, then started dating, and now we plan on being together for the rest of our lives.
Just keep hanging out with that person or just straight up ask them out. You will know when a girl wants to take a friendship further into a relationship because they will show it. I always say if you meet someone and feel a strong connection right away and like the person, then go for it because that person might be the one you spend the rest of your life with. Im glad it was love at first sight with my boyfriend because i would be dead by now without him.