I'm in a tough situation, any suggestions?

I have met the girl that I'm pretty sure is the love of my life. I want to get married in time, and be together with her forever.

How ever, her parents don't think she should be allowed to date guys yet.
( Even though she is at the appropriate age, I think.) Anywhom, so we have strong feelings for ea other.

I dropped the "L" Bomb on her for the first time about 2 weeks ago. Which is a big thing for me because I only say it when I mean it. She's a very strong Christian as I am, and she feels the need to obey her parents.

I support that, but it sucks so much. There's a limit to things we can do.
Now she says that God is telling her that we should be "just friends".
Which is extremely Ironic because later that same day she told me this, there we go being all romantic and touchy, which isn't a just friends quality if you ask me. Do you tell your "just friend" you love them??

Anyways, so I don't know if I should set my foot down and say " If we are going to be friends, than we need to do just that, otherwise we have to be something more." I really enjoy her company as more than friends and it would be a bummer to not have her by my side like that.

If I told her what I plan on saying, she would obey God and be just friends. That's when I would think our feelings would maybe go away from a lack of time together.

Any input or suggestions? Esp. Ladies??

( My friend thinks she's sub-consciously using me for pleasure. Scary thought.)

 

How old is this girl?

 

We're both 16.

 

your profile currently states that you are 27

honestlyu this situation sounds liek a guilt trip for her either which way it goes. either she gives up on you and feels guilty/wonders about hwo it couldve been with you. or she goes against her parents and her religion and dates you and feels guilty over that and may blame you for it all as well.

i do think you need to talk to her. sit down and tell her everything you feel, ask her how she feels, sit and talk for hours and hours til you at the least fully understand each others view points

 

I was afraid there might be an age limit on this site, and I really wanted to join, so I lied about my age.

Anywhom, that sounds like a good idea. I was planning to talk to her about it, but then I switched, now I'm all for it, but might chicken out.

I think it's the ONLY way to solve this problem. Thanks for knocking some sense into me buddy.

 

16 year olds are permitted to post. Please correct your profile. Thank you.

 

how long have you been with her cuz i know i have ruined a few relationships by doing too much too quick my advice is if you haven't been together too long just wait it out and see because maybe she isn't too sure right now and doesnt want to make the wrong decision or hurt you feelings and i agree with allonym that you should sit and discuss it with her if this is how you feel

 

This is what I ended up doing.

I asked her a question, "What do you classify me as?" Because for a while now she'd been calling me just her friend, and if she replied with that, I was going to tell her that we need to act like it then, or something along those lines.

Anywhom, She ended replying " You're someone special that I love, and hopefully my future boyfriend." That COMPLETELY took me by surprise. I feel bad that I ever doubted her intentions, now I know I picked the right chick.