i met a guy, 33 years old, he's the owner of a bar. we had some good times etc. at first we talked on a mutal forum and he started having feelings toward me, though his g/f noticed and kicked him out. next thing i know we're on a train being intimate...we did it in a forest at night, while it was raining. we spent 2 nights together. all in all, you could say that it was a three day adventure. he's back at his g/f place, he chose for save. he got confused and now he's on oxazepam, plus he's an alcoholist and doesn't sleep well. uhm..he still says he loves me, i said i don't want to have contact anymore, since he has chosen to stay with his girlfriend whom he has been having a relationship for five years. i don't want to get in the middle of something like that. so my question is..what should i do? he's going on a three week vacation on monday to spain/portugal. so that will be a relieve. though i'm scared what will happen when he's back. will he forget about me or will he have stronger feelings? he says our soul connects us and i gave something back to him that he had lost, which is the feeling that everything is okay, that together we can take on the world etc. i'm really tired, exhausted and down about this mess. i don't know what to say to him. i'm not the kinda person to be involved in a relationship anyway, i'm a loner...so i don't want to be dependent on anyone. i like being on my own. anyway, help or advice is much appreciated. please be kind, many people already have called me nasty names..thx.
i think the distance will be good if he's with his gf on his vacation. depending on the type of ppl they are on vacation it should bring them closer together. i think you're right in keeping your distance away from him since you don't want to be with him anyway. just try to ignore him if he tries to contact you and hopefully whatever feelings he still has will dissipate as he rebuilds his relationship with his gf.
he doesnt sound like hes terribly good for you, tbh. hes looking for someone to save him but really, hes the only one who can save himself. youre just a bandaid for him, whether he realizes it or not. i vote taht you keep your distance, its just gonna be a whoel mess of trouble if you dont
Like tigerlilly said, ignore him. He will try harder because he may think you are playing hard to get, or he may think he can wear you down. Either way, it is in many mens personality to try to get something they cannot have. We don't even know why we do this sometimes, but we do. Just ignore him, don't even answer his e-mail to say "No thanks." Just don't reply at all. He should stop rather soon, unless he is the stalker type.
if something is meant to happen-it will. Don't read into it and don't dwell-let whatever happens, happen-and let it be.
