Do you guys ever feel like your not being yourself, in terms of personality? looking back on someof the things I've done, I think that I was just doing them to support an image of myself that I liked. But how do you know who is the real you? Do you get to choose who you are? This has been bothering me for a while. Most of the time i feel alright, but then i wonder if what i am right now is just myself trying to appeal to others. Like my body- is my hair a certain length because i truely want it to be this long, or because of the image it gives to other people? And, if it is true that i subconciously try to appeal to other people, then should i attemp to act like others, and fit in? Or should i continue to try to find witch me is me? Does anyone feel this way?
You should continue to try to find which is you!!! Never be a follower, trying to get people to like you by doing what they do. If they can't accept someone for who they are, then they are a shitty person whom no one should be around.
And from experience, the people that copy the "cool" kids are thought of as queers by them. I have seen so many people try to act like someone they arent around people, and right when that person leaves, they get shit talked about them.
you just have to find yourself and realize who you really are. It took me a long time to realize who i was. When i was around my friends i wanted to be cool and wanted them to look up to me as the badass. So my image around my friends was the bad ass take no shit from no one whore image but then i met my boyfriend and discovered the real me. Im casie. Im smart, funny, nice, caring, loving, adventerous, outgoing, and just a wonderful person that likes everyone and everything and no one can change me now no matter what. Im glad i found myself because ive never been this happy before in my life. Try and do things that you can enjoy and hang out with people that your comfortable around and can be open to about anything and then you might find out who you are. It takes time because theres so many stages people go through in life but once they hit the right stage they know it and keep it the same. And sometimes you might like the image that your seeing but its not you and you need to just give up and find you.
I find it hard to be who I am cause I don't really know yet who i am. I want to be the person i am in my mind, free thinking and just being the person i am at home by myself but the first thing i step in school it just runs away. I don't know how to act really around my friends and stuff.
sometimes when i look in the mirror long enough, i get the feeling that i'm looking at a total stranger and i'm just a non-physical entity
So true. A knew this guy - biggest jerk ever but he was a wannabe. He tried so so hard to be cool and to fit in with them but after it all, after he'd isolated himself from all the 'geeks' hed scorned he was all alone. Quite sad but he left straight after. I dont think theres anything wrong with trying to fit in. Seeing what its like to be someone else just for a small time. It helps me find myself. Im so much more myself now then i ever was before. It rocks. Just trying out different things - for such a long time i made sure i would never fit in with styles and fashion etc It sucked. If you want long hair then have long hair for whatever reason. If you want it to fit in then keep it to fit in. You should never feel bad for who you are. And if who you are is just like someone else or a current fashion trend even if it changes with the fashion then so be it.
Dude!! That is so weird that you say that because I've pondered this for a while. I mean, sometimes it just feels like you don't even know who you really are deep inside, or if you're just a product of your surroundings. It's hard to tell weather you're really doing something to gain somebody else's acceptance or just your own - but I think I have a good formula to solve this equation: Just be yourself. I don't normally meditate, but if I ever feel unsure about something, I silence the room and dim the lights just to relax and sit there, and feel whatever it is that I'm personally feeling inside about a certain situation. Usually, it just goes to show you that you should just follow your nose and go with your gut feeling. Sometimes you need to just take some time off to reflect, and always remember to just be yourself no matter what!
figuring out your identity is THE problem of adolescents... more than likely, you'll feel more comfortable with yourself when you're in your 20s and will continue to change as you grow older and your priorities shift. i think ppl should behave however it is they do when they're most comfortable, but we are social creatures and how we behave towards others is very important in how our lives unfold day to day... so generally it's best to be nice and social and funny and your dress should reflect how you want others to see you, because it's a statement to them about what they should expect from you (this is probably most important in high school when ppl are in very distinct groups that are separated by clothes they wear but definitely carries over into careers as well) but personality goes a long way... okay i'm rambling... if you enjoy pondering these ideas of idenitity go for it, but don't let it worry you and feel free to experiment a lot.
I never tried to fit in. I always thought people should love me as I am. I was very unpoular, but you know what, I'm still me.
Thanks. I think two strange eyes explained this best. So I guess I'll take time to meditate! And lately I haven't been feeling like I'm not myself. But thanks.
