So i am in college right now, im a freshman, and i am extremely lonely being away from family and friends from my town and such, and i feel like a need an opposite sex companion but i dont even know where to start, i have had a girl friend in the past but that didnt work out well because it was a long distance relationship. Any suggestions on what i should do?
During my freshman year, I didn't always hit it off right away with the people in my classes, although that was the case in a few instances. But I saw a lot of my classmates while I was studying at the library, eating at the halls, hanging at the student union, and even at some of the clubs I attended, and having seen me before, they were already more open to conversation than a complete stranger. Basically, spend as much time as you can in public, try to do things in public that you might normally do at home, like studying, reading, or relaxing. The more the general population sees of you, the better your chances really.
I agree with sea star. The only way to meet people is to be where they are. Colleges have all kinds of clubs and organizations for the students to join. Do you have a hobby or particular interest? Maybe there is a club, and if so any girls in it would likely have the same interest. Great starting point.....something in common. A lot of freshman are in the same boat as you, they miss home. Look through your campus directory and calendar and see if there are any events you can attend. Put yourself out there and you are sure to find friends, and maybe more.
Depends entirely upon where you live. If you're in dorms, dunno, be aggressive. Freshman year I me and buddies literally knocked on every female door on campus using the flimsiest excuses simply to meet as many girls as possible. Of course, we were always drunk as hell and I remember somewhere close to zero percent of their names. But for the next 4 months I had strange girls coming up to me and hugging me all the time at every club/party/bar I went to. And party a lot.
"Is Jen there?" "No." "Well, my name is Brad..." The point was to get there when all the girls were knew and didn't know anybody and shit like this still worked because they were all aching for friends. Dunno. Sometimes we felt more creative and made up better excuses. I was also out partying 5 or 6 nights a week. I met lots of people that year, dunno. Managed to keep the grades up too. Couldn't do it anymore though, the liver is shot.
well, i mean i meet girls and stuff, but thats only in class, and once a while in dorms, cause its a dry campus, so not alot of drinking happens, some but not much, and i am incredibly shy when it comes to girls so yea, im stuck lol
Well, buddy, you picked a shitty school and have noone to blame put you and your pathetic highschool marks. jk.
To be honest, this was my reach school and my high school grades were pretty good, and i am a lucky son of a gun to get in, so that is ruled out, so idk maybe its just me being shy
Go out and start meeting people. Dont worry about getting a girlfriend right away, first find some friends and then you'll eventually find a girlfriend. I dont know much because im only 17 and im not in college but ive been to 3 drifferent schools and everytime in the beginning i felt so lonely but then i started talking more and introduced myself to a lot of people and then i made friends and wasnt lonely anymore. I still missed my friends but you'll see them when you go home and not everyone stays in touch with friends from high school because everyone goes seperate ways and just doesnt have time for some things. Just give it time things will get better.
