New here, looking for an answer/opinions, thanks!

Hey,

I figured I'd sign up on this board as I'm very curious about my current situation with a female I'm seeing. I really really like her, and we've had sex twice already. When we were still in the talking process, I asked her if she was a virgin, and she said yes. About a good month later, we had sex, and once again, she told me she was a virgin and I was her first, but here's the thing, it's not that I think she's lying, but, it really didn't seem like she was. I mean, she didn't bleed, she wasn't crazy tight, and she didn't really seem to be in any discomfort. Now, I'm not sure if I'm being steriotypical of what a virgin is 'supposed' to feel like, but I just need some peoples thoughts on this, you all seem like great people, so I'd love to get your thoughs opinions on it. It's simply becuase I don't want her lying to me and what turned me on a lot was the fact that she was a virgin. Now keep in mind, I was also able to finger her with 2 fingers and she didn't seem in discomfort.

So, what do you think the situation is?


Thanks a lot.

 

How old is she? Assuming she's of age, she's probably already lost her hymen naturally--it's very possible for it to be torn doing anything from climing trees to a visit to the gyno. That could explain why she didn't bleed. As for not being tight, not all girls are. Alot of my friends said it didn't hurt when they lost their virginities, it just depends on their body. Are you exceptionally large or something?

 

i didnt bleed at all my first time, nor was it difficult for him to enter me, nor did it hurt me at all. admittedly i had mastrubate internally (used something inside of my vagina during masturbation) but even that hadnt hurt when i first started it *shrugs* some of us are lucky enough to not go through that virginal pain thing

 

Some women have hymens that are short enough around so that they do not require a penis to open them up, or as has been said, they could have gotten broken by horseback riding, bicycling, etc. Don't fret it - believe her. Not all women bleed when they first have intercourse.

 

Thank you all for some great replies that all seem like great possibilites. I was also wondering, would he height make a difference? She's about a high 5'8" to 5'9". Also, she's exactly of age, and to answer your question, Strawberry Fields, I'm not really overly large, I'd say about 7" and a quarter.

 

I think it depends on what you definition of a virgin is.

If it's simply a matter of whether or not the hymen is intact, then she probably isn't a virgin, but if it's a matter of whether she's been with another man or not, then she may well have been a virgin before you.

Don't forget that females masturbate as well, and what's more many of them have a far wider range of toys to do it with than males do, such as didoes, vibrators & love eggs, most of which include penetration which, in itself could break the hymen.

As a point of interest, in the middle ages, before their marriage brides would break their hymens by masturbating on the genitals of saints' statues in the village church, or have sex with the parish priest so that the groom wouldn't have to endure the unpleasantness of taking her virginity away. In this respect, the statues would serve the same purpose as a dildo.

 

Virgin women having sex with the parish priests in medieval times? How times gave changed. Now it's alter boys and "No child's behind left".

 

im 5"1' and experienced no pain during my first round of intercourse, nor a spot of bleeding then

 

As a girl gets turned on more her vagina stretches to accompany the male who is going to enter her, its the same as a girl getting wetter as she gets turned on. If she was really turned on maybe thats why she didnt feel so tight, and it was really easy.

 

maybe she just masturbated before, used toys or whatever. if she used toys or masturbated alot using more fingers or normal sized toys or whatever she just got used to it.

 

I believe everyone is different because when i lost my virginity i bled and i was in a lot of pain, i was also extremely tight.

 

The first time I had sex the girl I was with was a virgin too. I had fingered her a lot before we had sex so she didn't bleed or complain about it hurting. Another girlfriend I had later bled some when we had sex the first time but she said it didn't hurt too bad. I spent a while eating her pussy before we had sex.