Hello there... I've just got married and me n my wife have had proper sex only four or five times. Before that, just after marriage she felt to much pain because of which i could not penetrate properly, and i didnt cum for first 3 or 4 intercourses. Now I enjoy it, and I can cum properly and I can almost fully penetrate into her but she doesnt enjoy as she says that she doesnt feel anything. when i start inserting my penis in her for some initial moments she says that she enjoys it but after that there ant any thin good. Please help me, tell me how can i make her cum and how can she get an orgasm. Thanks
Some women just don't get a lot of pleasure from penetrative sex. It's nothing that you're doing wrong, she might just not be all that sensitive inside. There's always using your hands and mouth to help her acheive an orgasm through her clit. Some women can only orgasm through stimulation of their clit.
yeah, this is a bigger issue than just acheiving orgasm. most women don't orgasm from simple penetration. but despite the fact that people like to think that sexual relations aren't a strongly relevent aspect of relationships, it just plain is. i agree with allonym. this situation can cause a great deal of stress on the relationship on both sides. and i doubt few here are capable of giving actual valid and helpful advice. i mean, how much foreplay is going on? are you getting her blood and juices flowing down there? does she have any sort of physical disorder? is it mental? or is it just her? who knows. these are things that should be addressed professionally.
I know plenty of women who cannot acheive orgasm through penetration but still enjoy sex. It's an emotional high I guess. It's still hot.
Try a position in which the clit can be stimulated during sex...its a case of angeling the hips in a certain way. If that fails try positions in which you can stimulate her with your hands at the same time.....a lot of girls just can't orgasm from penetration alone
ok so you have only had sex four or five times. like ever? and her too? i think you guys just need a little experience. explore each other and find out what feels good. there is a lot more to sex than penetration. the first like 10 times were kinda lame for me too lol
there is a condition called vaginismus that this could be.... but, again, it requires a good sex therapist to help out, or occasionally a gyno that happens to double as a counsellor (i get hte impression that good ones are terribly rare)
1. see a sex therapist and or doctor 2. learn as much as you can about the clitoris. 3. learn to seduce your woman. Talk to her. Build trust. 4. Take care of your appearance and cleanliness. Use deoderant and mouthwash. Shower every day. (sorry to be this specific but you'd be shocked how many guys dont and fail to realise they smell and/or look like they do) Hope that helps.
If you've only had sex a handful of times, you kind of need to go at it more to get a feeling for it. Maybe your wife isn't comfortable with sex, and if she isn't, you guys should actually talk about it. If you're not very experienced, educate yourself. I think one of the most helpful things you two can do is just talk. And I'm going to agree and suggest a sex therapist if talking things out doesn't prove as helpful as you would like.
Another "first post"er and then we don't hear from the OP for 5 days????? There is a lot of great advice here.
