So im an creative writing major and I have write a 10 to 20 page nonfiction piece for my non-fiction class. The only subject I think I can even begin to write that much upon is my bisexuality. It'll include memories from childhood that make sense now that i know i'm bi and various other info and musings upon me being bi. The paper will be workshopped by the class (15 people) at some point. But I've got a couple problems; 1. While I'm out to most of my friends and a couple members of my family, this will be the first time I'm coming out to people i don't know very well. I know I shouldn't care, but for some reason I do. This class certainly isn't the worst place to come out, most of the people being liberally minded and such, but I'm still nervous as hell about 2. I don't wanna be that guy that talks all the time about his sexuality as some way to get attention, cause thats not me at all. I'm not really sure what i'm looking for here, reassurance or similar experiences maybe? I can already feel a little knot forming in my belly about all this.
hmm. it is a tough desicion. i dont know if i would do it.i would certainly consider it but i am not sure that i would carry through. if you do it smartly then people wont think you are the guy who tlaks about his sexuality to get attention. and if you write it metaphorically or just really subtle then people probably will think its not a big deal.
that sounds like a good idea but you'd need the confidence to do it. i'm also studying in a higher english class and frequently write from women or homosexual / bi-sexual perspectives for my creative pieces. i felt people did get a little suspicious to a certain extent when we were sharing and discussing our work however to be honest it didn't bother me all that much. but it sounds as though the main cause of your angst stems from yourself not wanting to be seen as a dramatic attention seeker amongst your peers not on the other hand a bisexual (because bi-sexuality as a matter of fact is a pretty cool lifestyle so to speak) ; ) . i totally relate i promise. i think the only way to solve this dilemma is by being yourself (as in not an attention seeker) and not giving a shit about what people think otherwise. just be true to your nature and you'll have nothing to worry about, best of luck, franzde
Thanks for all the input and reassurances, reading this and talking to the girl I came out to first help me feel a lot better about writing this. I think I'm gonna go ahead with it and just try to avoid talking about cetain subjects that might make anybody queasy.
Hopefuly, they'll only critique your writing. I mean, after all; you are still the same person you were before you wrote it. Good Luck!
Awesome,Go for it!!,That takes courage.If I was in that position I'd think to myself mmm Well am I gonna regret it if I don't write this paper.If I felt I would I would almost *have to write it,I'm sure it would be a good thing to do for yourself.Have confidence and be proud of who you are I think that's fantastic.Wish I could open up more to people about my sexuality and who I am. Good Luck, Knock em' dead ! Joe e *
Any time a person comes out about their sexual orientation they risk some kind of attack or criticism, but society is only changed by those willing to take that risk. I also think it's better to be attacked than to feel like you are hiding who you are. And since most if not all of those attacks are irrational, they are pretty easy to counter by pointing out what the irrationality contained in the attack is. Good luck.
