woman playing mind games at work

There is this woman who was flirting with me once I started working at this company. I went along with it passively and felt a closer connection with her than with my other co-workers. A few weeks later, she started to distance herself from me and stopped flirting. She would just act professional in front of me w/o any humor. She would then ask if she could have things that I can give her, such as the fruits on my desk or other snacks I had.

I realized this was all a game she was playing, and now she is trying to be "hard to get" and the only way she would be nice and be herself towards me is if I continue to gift her with things. This is the game I realized she is playing, and still is. It really bothers me that she doesn't really smile at me anymore. She just approaches me and speaks in a monotonous voice. I tried being nice to her and joke around with her, but she relentlessly continues her game that she is playing. It really bothers me at work and I want this to stop. I don't know what to do, and of course I would not gift her with little things every now and then which is ridiculous.

This woman is an accounting clerk probably around 60, and i'm an accountant at 24 yrs old. Yea i know, even at her age she still plays silly mind games. Very ridiculous and I don't like having any trouble with other co-workers at work because it bothers me while I work.

So...what should I do? Should I wait this out, not knowing when this will stop and suffer her cold approaches towards me? Maybe I will get used to it and not care anymore? Or should I bring this situation up to her, with a possible chance that she'll deny everything knowing what she's like? Talk to HR? Etc.... Please help! Thanks!

 

just forget about her if she speak to you then speak back.... women can only mind game you if you let them just try your best to stop caring.....first sign a woman is mind gaming me i am throu with her cause i don't like having someone trying to mess with my head...

 

Is it possible she's into s&m? Maybe she's trying to see if you are aswell, by seeing if you'll submit to playing her games. Or I could be completely wrong there. Is there anyone else in your office you can talk to?

 

are you certain its a game and not just her? but seroiusy, you said she was 60 and yoru in your 20s.. you want to pursue that? gmilf i guess? i honestly would let it be, be as nice to her as you are to your other coworkers but no more and no less

 

maybe she ain't mind gaming you....maybe she was kinda attacted to you at first then she got a thinking about it she is 60 and you 24 so she came back to her senses and started acting like she should

 

she's training you. if you don't want to play, simply be courteous and ignore her.

 

That would be my choice.

 

Thanks for your advices guys. I'm currently just being very passive to her. I talk to her only when she approaches me. She's a person who likes to have attention and love the company of others since her work is probably very boring. I act professional and don't appear needy to her, keeping my conversations curt. I suspect she likes to pull me in by flirting etc., then backs away so I feel more needy for her. She's a very simple-minded person, hence the games she's playing at her age. Anyways, I don't think this will be a big deal anymore as the days go by and she'll get tired of these games when I don't respond the way she wants me to.

Thanks again.

 

honestly I think ur reading too much into this and ur coming off pretty bitter. I think poster #4 was more right on.