So I've been dating this girl for a year, but we broke up around our 9th month, and got back together a couple weeks later. But during those two weeks, she had slept with two other guys, 2 days apart from each other and got with someone else. To be honest, I love the girl, and our relationship has been going pretty good, but I just don't know how to deal with what she did. Sure I understand it was a break, but to love someone and find out they did these acts hurts a lot. I know she slept with them because she told me, and I've seen pictures of these guys, and I just want to break their faces. Regardless, she means a lot to me, and whenever we start getting intimate with each other, or start doing little things that make us us, I think of these other people and get really depressed. I've done some stupid things like speed, smoke, drink and a bunch of other little shit, but I still, 3 months later, can't grasp the fact of what she did. How could someone tell you that they love you, even during the break as she says, than goes off and sleeps with other people. I'm sorry, I am just still bothered by it, and I don't know what to do. I've talked to her, and she regrets what she did, but the damage is already done. Should I stay with her and move on ( it may take a while) or should I forget about her and start over with someone knew? I am just coping with the situation still, and you guys give the best advice.
personally I think it's best to take REAL breaks when you take them, and not see others, bc you have unresolved issues that can only be worked out by you. I was single, and intimate free for 3 years before I met my fiance, bc thats how long it took me to sort our my past experiences (this is choice, I ain't no ugly bitch) so I could start anew without the drama of my past experenices. Of course what she did hurts, but is it wrong? The girls I know who act like that do not respect themselves, and if she is like them I would advise you to find a classy lady, if indeed you are classy enough yourself to find one. But then again some guys label girls as sluts for acting the way they do, and that is wrong in my book. Where she stands is nothing but personal opinion. But I would be worried if 2 different guys banged her in this period. It could signify emotional dependence, which isn't good for anyone.
howh could she do it? because love does not equal sex for her, its really that simple now the question comes as to whether or not you can accept what she did. it may take work, it may take counseling, but you have to decide if its worth it fo ryou or if you need to just cut and run
I say never go down the same road twice...you already know where it goes. Either learn to forgive or move on. You guys weren't together...she didn't cheat on you. Maybe she didn't want to spend months sitting around the house crying...maybe she wanted to see what else was out there..maybe she was just horny...ASK HER...but whatever her reason..you have to let it go or let her go...
IMO I think you should break up with her. If she truly loved you like she said she does then she wouldnt have done that. If me and my boyfriend took a break like that i would be so depressed and i would miss him a lot and do everything in my power to talk him into not having a break, I just got done shedding some tears because my boyfriend just left my house because he has school and work and now im not going to see him for 2 days. I love him so much that i cant be away from him for more than an hour and if we ever did take a break i sure as hell wouldnt sleep with other people because all i would do is think about him.
When you re-start going out with someone, it can be difficult to see it as a new relationship. But you must have broken up for a reason, and when you got back together, that was your new start. I completely understand how much it is getting to you, because from the situation you are in now, it feels like you just didn't see each other for a couple of weeks and she cheated on you. But whatever the reason for her sleeping with those people, you weren't in a relationship at the time. You say in the title it was a 'break', but in your post you actually broke up. If you had officially broken up and left it there, I would say what she has done is acceptable to you, but if you had arranged a break so you could have time to gather your thoughts, then I agree with because then in some way, she has been unfaithful to you. You say she regrets what she did, can you believe her? The important thing is you need to feel like you can trust her, else if that is missing, it will undermine the relationship in the future. Yes, she may have done a foolish thing, considering how things are now, but all people can make mistakes, it just depends on whether you think you can forgive her for this slip up, and move on.
either dump her or stay with her... if you feel you can't get over it then forget about her... but if you are sure you can forgive her stay with her very simple decision..lolol i know what i would do i would tell her to not let the door hit her ass on the way out but everyone is different......sound like to me during the breakup she was having a good o time and she could'nt be much sorry about it or she would'nt slept with 2 or 3 guys during break up
That sort of thing happens all of the time when you take breaks. She probably took the break to screw them, just get rid of her. Ive been there to. If you have to take a break in the first place there is already something wrong. Than she goes and screws someone else, that just sucks. I don't believe that if she really loved you she would have done that.
hey bitch boy wake up! she is a whore or she has zero respect for you. either way, it's not going to get any better for you. unless you get off on that abuse shit... if watching other guys fuck your girlfriend/fiancee/wife/master/dominatrix/abuser get pounded by giant dicks sounds like a good time to you, congratulations. if not, swerve on that ho
