blow job follies bad talk = dog house

I met this girl great, we went out a few times, great. we were out for drinks one night so I asked her to come back to my place for some more drinks.. we get to my place drinking and are having a good time..

we're both laughing and getting closer to each other .. were on the couch and I asked her to give me a blow job! great..

wrong! she makes a joke and brushes the idea off so she asks me to take her home and I willingly comply no questions asked home ok i'll take you....

so the next day comes around and she wont return my calls .. then I get a call saying how could I ask her to do that and all this really Bs kinda talkshe is 23 by the way...

I guess its not proper to ask for a job these days.. now im in the dog house.. any thoughts ?

I wasn't trying to romance anyone we were out drinking laughing having a good time and then she told me she had a boyfriend then things lead to one another and I asked her back to my place. we talked got closer to eachother and then I asked.. I didn't want to steal her away from her boyfriend I just wanted some fun. haha Am I wrong? or did she get the signals crossed when I said lets go back to my place.. ?

 

I know of no woman that would appreciate a man asking for a BJ.

Men are supposed to just enjoy if and when they get one.
Maybe after you've been together and gotten very close and the comunication is that open.
Maybe I'm just old fashioned , but I would never ask for one.

 

asking for one only really works in a good relationship, and even then its iffy. if shes not in the mood shell probably get a little bitter about doing it, even if she does (in said good relationship)

if you two were pretty new, weeeell, no. you have to work up to it slowly, be sly about it. give her a neck and shoulder massage. offer a better one if shell lay down, push her shirt up a bit so you can massage directly onto her skin, etc. work at shirts off first, then worry about the pants. and, ehll, go down on her first, it generally makes us women a whole lot more responsive/willing to do more if we get off first or get pleasured first.

 

Yea, who would have seen that coming. Come on use a little seduction skill, you can't just ask like ordering a burger.

 

OP it was NEVER proper to just outright ask for a bj with a girl your not in a relationship with.

As already mentioned TWICE you should've used more sophisticated seduction skills, i.e. the girl get off FIRST.

 

I wasn't trying to romance anyone we were out drinking laughing having a good time and then she told me she had a boyfriend then things lead to one another and I asked her back to my place. we talked got closer to eachother and then I asked.. I didn't want to steal her away from her boyfriend I just wanted some fun. haha Am I wrong? or did she get the signals crossed when I said lets go back to my place.. ?

 

The invitation to your place was for drinks so no she technically didn't get the signals crossed. There may have been a difference of expectations and that's all it was. Inviting a girl to your place does not entail sexual activity, ESPECIALLY if she's attached.

Anyways...
you can't expect to have fun for FREE, you have to put out. That means stimulating her first, like I said, making her come first. And you have to do so subtly, you have to work up to it, reread Allonym post, she says so herself. So yeah you do have to use romance, even if you don't wanna take her away from her bf, a girl still needs some kind of romance to get turned on, it's about subtleness.

To have a guy abruptly request a bj is not a turn on, it's quite aggravating exactly. You've made no indication that you'll return the pleasure and girls really hate it giving pleasure and not having it returned. Often when guys cum they don't have any more energy for her, therefore ladies come first.

Hang around the forums more often, I think you could learn alot.