I Havnt Had Full Sex Yet Because I Have Problems Staying Erect, It Even Happens At Home When Im Alone, My Girlfriend Turns Me On A Lot/makes Me Hard Etc But As Soon As It Comes To Sex I Lose My Erection, Ive Thought Long About How It May Happen N It Happens When I Actually Think About What Were Doing, Like I Cant Believe It Type Of Thing? N Thats When I Lose It, Even When im Alone To Try Sort It Ive Imagined My Girlfriend Was Having Sex With Me And As Soon As I Do I Go Soft???? Its Affecting My Confidence A Lot And Im Going Down To See Her On Saturday N Go For A Meal Then Back To Her House N Id Like To Make Love But Im Worrying . . . Its Like A Mental Block As If I Dont Want An Erection But I Duno How To Get Round It? Any Help On How I Can Realx Or Any General Help On This Problem Please? Much Appreciated Thanks
Liam - just try to relax. You are having performance anxiety. Once you have some success, the anxiety will go away. Don't drink to much before yu have sex.
Liam - just try to relax. You are having performance anxiety. Once you have some success, the anxiety will go away. Don't drink too much before yu have sex.
I think that you are thinking about it to much thats all. When you get in the act it seems like you concentrate so hard on having an erection and pleasing her that you forget that sex is a relaxing and she is your girlfriend so she won't be mad if you make mistakes. I have had that problem before but in my case I would have to many things going on in my head about performing good and not just enjoying the moment and I was so worried I would never get erect when the time came. Then, when I started to get frustrated about it in the bedroom it will only get worst. So what worked for me was to just relax and free my mind. Then find out what things really turned me on and her too and I did that mainly to stay erect and then don't waste time putting it in once erect. If she is very wet and turned on trust me you won't have a problem staying erect once inside.
YEAH THATS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENS BUT I CANT CLEAR MY MIND? IVE TRIED BUT OT JUST DOESNT WORK? I GOT ERECT THEN DIDNT WASTE TIME PUTIN MYSELF INSIDE HER AS YOU MENTIONED BUT ABOUT 30 SECONDS INTO IT I ACTUALLY THOUGHT ABOUT WHA TI WAS DOING N THEN . . . FLOP! LOL
Liam - you really screw with your brain and not the delivery system between your legs, so when you worry about getting soft, you do. Try to relax and think about something else - count the thrusts, think about how much you love George Bush, or her bush, and you will not go soft. And you are only 18. Give yourself some time to learn how to do sex right.
LOL! Damn, that's crazy! Another thing that I did was try to think of a fantasy (obtainable of course) that you have always have. And ask her could you two do that and hopefully that will work. Because I'm big on sexy clothes and sexy costumes. So when my gf did that it worked really good for me. See if she can get a nurse outfit or police outfit or whatever you are into. Just try to see if you two can make some fantasy come true and hopefully that will work.
