In College: certain difficulty in meeting girls

So far this year in college has been pretty dry so far as girls are concerned. i just got out of a six-month relationship following a two-year relationship and my game is very rusty.

I HAVE been meeting some very cute girls, but we meet, have a nice chat, and then I don't know when I'll ever see them again.

SO, I was wondering if this was a decent idea: meet them, friend them on Facebook, then just send a message saying "Oh hey this event is happening soon wanna go?"

Good? bad? needs work? I've always been pretty shy about inviting people to stuff before I'm 'comfortable' with them, but as time goes on i realize that may not be the best approach.

 

Act like you could care less and don't need a chick. They'll jump all over you.

 

Unless they're not interested in you. Sheesh.

 

Yea but here's the thing:

Girls are mostly interested in guys who act like they could care less and don't need a chick.

Seriously. I used to be desperate, and never even got a phone number. Then I stopped caring, and the women lined up at my door.

 

this is very true. Just act cool- we are attracted strangely to guys who arent desperate and stalkerish.

good luck, hon!

 

Don't be desperate, and don't be "I could care less" be confident in yourself. Women like a man that is confident without being a jerk. There is a HUGE difference between confident and "could care less". If a man has that "I don't give a damn" look on his face he comes across as a jerk. Yeah, some women like them, but not the majority.

Go to lectures, events , whatever, that interest you and start chatting with people. Not just the ladies, but guys too. Why guys focus on "the ladies" I don't get because the guy next to you may have a hot sister or friend that he'd hook you up with. Basically stop trying to find a date and work on finding friends. If you are around a group of people you are much more likely to attract a girls attention than if you are standing alone. It also gives a girl a chance to check you out by asking your friends "what's he like" and so on. It creates a safety zone for you and a potential date. You don't feel lonely, and she doesn't think you are there to just get laid. The bonus to being in a group of friends is that they are likely to say "yeah, he is a great guy" as opposed to having to prove it in when you fly solo.

 

be friendly. when you meet someone youre interested in, exchange emails or some other way to keep in contact with them, else youve lost em forever. join groups with similar interests, like your majors club on campus or such

 

the dude from The Pick-Up Artist would tell you to try setting up an "instant date"

really, just ask them if they wanna go get some food or coffee or whatnot
then from their, ask for their number or addy

 

I just started college again this semester and am looking for a new relationship after my last one took a while to get over. So from a girls POV, be confident and go for it, don't play a "game" be forward. I wish some guys would be forward with me!!!! As much as you want to hang out with some of the girls you are meeting, a lot of em prolly wanna be with you too so just do it. DO NOT act like a pompus ass who "doesn't care" that's just rude, big turn off

 

Well, my strategy when i'm in college is to be friendly and to look interesting. I try to be social...
It's always the same thing, just act natural, don't try so hard and...i don't know, CHILL, do something interesting, read some book, etc.

 

try adult friend finder if you get really desperate. It'll work, though you might want to run a spyware program after you visit the site

 

We were told college is all about studying and stuff. And definately not about making friends or more. so you should date someone outside your college. you know, someone who is not the competition or sth.