Being a girl

I don't know if this will help you better understand the opposite sex. But, I would like to say that I have realized it is all part of normal attraction between males and females. sometimes I can't control my eyes. It is almost as if I stop willingly, it just makes the eyes stare more and more. When I was 13-16 yrs old, this was a big problem for me, I shunned this inability to control my own eyes.
As a solution, I decided to not have any relations with women.For a while I had no contact with anyone except my own mother and sister. I wouldn't go out to meet any relatives, did not attend any parties, but women are hard to avoid, I had become a complete recluse. My parents feared that I might be going into depression. One girl had some curiosity with me, for some reason at school... I broke her heart by telling her "I hate you".

Anyway, that was then, Now I have come to terms with myself, I realized that the key to controlling my own eyes is not caring. This has allowed me to transcend this behavior of mine, sometimes (actually most of the time) I don't even notice that I am looking.

 

In my workplace oogling and staring is considered sexual harassment and is addressed rather seriously.

It's unavoidable not to be looked at unless you decided to wear a sheet and walk around like a ghost. I have a tendency to give men that stare at me a taste of their own medicine - I stare directly at their croches with fire in my eyes - and then put on a face of utter disgust if they start grin.

I slap men as hard as I can if they grab me and I make a scene. There is only so much you should be tolerating in public.

 

ooohh i'd love to join in on the energy of this topic... but the hurt i feel overwhelms me as i'm reading these posts... as a slim but curvy 12DD with a bottom i think you girlies might be able to understand what i have to go through everyday... it makes me fucking hate life, and i'm a very positive soul. i better not read the last page of these posts

 

I don't mean to sound like an asshole...But...
It's the price you're paying for being hot or beautiful or whatever...I mean...You always have to expect that being beautiful will draw the attention of some pigs...It's only natural. It's the price to pay, period.
I know it's nasty and it's an ugly experience but it will always happen...And if you're working as a promoter...with those fit FIT uniforms, all promoters are smoking hot, there will be always some asshole out there.
It's like complaining about men that are pigs, while working as a stripper.

Well, I really hope it doesn't happen again...Be careful

 

how is me complaining about a rude guy while Im at a concert like complaining that men are pigs while working as a stripper?
I definitely do not see the connection.

 

I was talking to the girl that said she worked as a promoter. The other thing was for you, beauty has to be paid someway...

Take care.

 

Being a guy is tough too. I get this stares all the time!
I figured out how to stop it though, transfiguratioN!
So brightly shining that people have to sheild their eyes :tongue:
Seriously though, you shouldnt have to feel uncomfortable
unless it goes beyond looking, even if it's a hard stare
such as the situation you describe.
If anything, you should feel compassion for the poor
lonely man whose mind is controlled by his sense attachments.
This state of being is, truly, the poorest, saddest, lonely
state a person can be in.
If a man cant help but stare at anything attractive, he
is being ruled by ego magnetism. Ape like, if you will. -

 

It reminds me of when I was stuck at the subway station
in center city with no money to get home after being a
homeless 17 year old for over a year.
And the gay middle aged man approached me and asked
if I wanted to come home with him, so I had him buy me
a ticket and sat silently while he whispered gay things in
my ear and then I jumped off the train at my stop, making
sure to leave with a very hateful, anti-gay remark. Which
is pretty rude of me, but hey I was a kid and the dude was
out to rape me!

 

yeah, I remember this story So many fucked up people out there.

 

Yea, I cant remember what I said exactly, but
I laughed at him and was like "f*****g f****t
g*y a** mother f****r" along with a middle
finger to boot :tongue: I dont have a problem
with gays but I told the guy I was 17, even to
this day I dont like as old as I really am, so his
pervert freakiness made me release some very
angry generalizations

 

Its understandable.

 

guys called me and my skirt-wearing friends at a show "sluts", and grinding and touching us:/.

whyyy do they do it? do they honestly think we LIKE that stuff?!.

 

I really don't know if I should even donate my opinion, so I shall anyway... some say that 98% of men etc. 90% of women are... well heres my opinion, there is a 50/50 balance in all genders/walks of life. I am not-guilty of thinking with my dick, I prefer to think with my blancmange brain thing. The end.

 

that's horrible
ugh I hate that we have to deal with these kind of things, not matter were we are.
I remember in my old job in NY, I was in the office in the kitchen, getting some water and this guy, one of the few people I talked to, comes says hi to me, gives me a kiss on the cheek (that's totally fine, Im dominican so Im used to it) gives me this big hug and then he just grabs my ass like it's the normal thing to do.
I got so angry at him, I was like "wtf?? why do you have to grab my ass?"... His reply was "Because there's so much of it"...
what's that abput?? really?

 

No disrespect to anyone, but shouldn't you jsut be flattered that someone of the opposite sex finds you attractive?

There are those of us that would give jsut about anything to be noticed and have someone make it obvious that they thought you were hot.

Just my 5 cents

 

there's a BIG difference between someone finding you attractive and someone making you feel like a sexual object.. if someone looks at me and smiles..i smile them back .. if someone tells me you are so beautiful.. i smile....but this is just gross.

 

the curse of the beautiful I guess

 

I dont think it has anything to do with being beautiful or not.
I mean they are not looking at my face, they are not looking at my whole person, they are focused on my ass. It's becoming quite uncomfortable, today I was going out of the elevator and they were all like..(I think they were dominican too) and just were saying things in spanish to me. But I dont like it, I wish I had no ass
But ok... Im gonna stop complaining about it.

 

I get what you are saying and all, but as someone who isn't very attractive it baffles me how people could tire or get annoyed with knowing that someone thinks they are hot enough to hassle about it.

 

first off, i doubt youre "not very attractive", but anyway. as someoen who isnt spectacularly hot myself, i dont liek getting treated like a piece of meat either. its about no longer being a person, about being treated as an object, something with tits and ass existing solely for someone elses sexual gratification. i dont mind when my bf gets a bit male like that, but when others do it at hte bar or such its... icky. you become less than a person when it happens. doesnt happen a ton to me anymore since i dont really get myself into the places those creeps lurk the most (ie i havent been out to a dance bar in like 6 months now) but... ick.