should i be mad?(please read)

okay, so i have had this best friend for a year and a half now, and for the longest time we have done some not so heterosexual things.well we've made out, and one time a year ago she fingered me while we were high.although i know she remembers, for some reson we both act like we dont' remember it whatsoever.but anyways, awhile ago we got to talking about being bi over the phone, and decided to go out.i was kinda excited to see her again, but when we hung out, she acted like she never asked me out.i was kinda bummed.buut, after having a 40,we we're kinda buzzed(but not really).and she said she was horny.she started touching me, and saying something about having fun.i was like ok then, now we're getting somewhere.BUT, you'll never believe what she does.she calls her ex boyfriend and talks to him for over an hour.after awhile, i said i'm going to bed.she said don't fall alseep and i ignored her.her ex bf said why is she mad?and she said i know why she's mad.we ended up sleeping on different couches in the living room.after that we went right back to pretending like it never happened.should i be pissed that she led me on, or try to understand that maybe she's still confused?oh and keep in mind that she's pretty hott.

 

make sure she acknowledges the fact, and encourage her to talk about it but say that's it wrong for her to lead you on and get your hopes up.

 

That sounds like my first girlfriend... I would say, look for someone knew, she doesn't have your interests at heart.

 

She has no idea what she wants.....you are dealing with a girl, afterall....haha...and I can say that, cause I am one!

 

my friend did that- found out i liked her and said "stay overnight, we'll see where it goes!"-HEAVY flirting, sleeping in the same bed, playing fottsie all night. lovey texts. then she never talks again...?.
then i find out she has a new relationship.
it happens, but i suggest you tell her how she made you feel.

 

oops- i meant "footsie".

 

I'd be mad in a similiar situation .I'd tell her,I would'nt let her pretend nothing happened again.You can be sympathetic and also be angry at her.I just would'nt let her do that again.I'd wonder if I'd want to be "friends with someone like that.I'd probably look for someone new.

 

I'm going through something similar...I met this girl in one of my classes. We really hit it off. The other night, we made out some...her lips were so soft, but she bailed on me...FUCK!

Since then we've been physical with each other, and even had some really cool cyber...but nothing physical yet...It's driving me nuts.

I wouldn't be mad...just frustrated. I think you should ask her outright if its going to happen...and be cool with it either way.

 

she's SERIOUSLY conflicted about it. i woulnd't invest much more emotion in this, but i wouldn't be mad at her either. she's not using you deliberately, she's just really confused and might have some shame issues. i've been used, and it seriously hurts. it's deliberate and it's mean. but i don't get this from her.

 

I think she likes the attention she's getting from you back off for a bit and see if she calls. Don't hope for anything. I think she could be curious but is probably afraid.

 

My confession is i've done something similiar in the past and it was because of fear,dunno what I was really afraid of.I guess going beyond the piont of no return and the changes I'd have to make.I agree with Britany back off a bit and she what she does,she might come around.She probably does like the attention too,being that she's hot also too.

Good Luck,
J*