I'm about to get married in a month but there's one thing that struck me after I read this online article about Pre-Relationship Background Check. I've first met my fiancé through internet chat and he became my boyfriend for over a year. He is sweet, loving and a man of principle but I can't deny the fact that I only knew him base from what he said to me. I don't know if he's lying or hiding something from me or there are things that he never told me. Do you think it's reasonable to have a background check on him or am I just too paranoid with what i've read. I wanted to know but so afraid to discover the truth and I'm also worried if he might know this in the future that I did not trust and believe in him. This might be the reason of our misunderstanding and distrust. I need some advice, please help.
well if you love him and he loves you than he shouldn't have a reason to lie to you and therefor didn't. on the other hand if this is really bugging you (it looks like it is) than just have the background check if everything is okay then tell him what you did i'm sure he'll understand. don't worry be hippie
if he loves you he should be up front about stuff.... but that don't mean he has been so follow your feelin about doing background check....but you can't fine out everything with a background check i have a incident that happen to me years ago that won't show up on a backgroubd check cause i was never convicted .....
In my opinion, and this is only my opinion, you need to follow your gut. There are some people that you know have a "background" but they try to cover it up and there are those that have them and are open and up front about them....I guess everyone has something in the past that they don't want to share.... But, if you feel that he is not being open and up front about everything now....then I think you may want to hold off on the wedding until you know him a little better. You want to enter marriage with everything on the table already...you don't want new things being pulled out of the bag constantly after the vows have been said...then you will be made to feel lied to, cheated, betrayed, etc.....especially if there is something that you would consider "very bad." You love him and he loves you....that is what really matters here.....but on the other hand, if that is the case, then what would leave you to believe he is hiding something? Is it something he does, says, the way he acts, what other people have to say about him, etc.? Or are you nervous because of the amount of time (which is little) that you two have been together?
id Marriage is an instant financial contract for life, espcially if there are kids. Of course, you may never get that far if he is violent, sexual preditor, polygamous, or scam artist. Litterally, your life is at stake. And, kids will exponentially complicate everything. The worst people make themselves seem like the best, that is part of their scam. A criminal background search is done by sensible peoplewho find dates online or meet with unknown people met in chat rooms or online dating services. It can be a lonely world and a lot of people are looking for their soul mate, but sometimes the person on the other end of the modem may not be what they seem. A criminal background search can help to spot individuals who are lying about their background. It is a good idea to know who you are chatting with or planning to meet. Any caregiver being considered as a nanny or babysitter to your children should undergo a criminal background search. We have all heard horror stories about a caregiver who has abused or neglected the children in their care, and some people have had experience, either as a child or a parent, with a caregiver who was not what they seemed. A criminal background search can help you find the right candidate and eliminate any subjects who have a criminal history, which can help you minimize the risks to your children.
